Daniel Per's Memorial & Funeral Fund

Hi, my name is Adrian Per, and I'm writing on behalf of the Per family.

We've recently had the unfortunate sudden loss of our father at 64. He unexpectedly passed away before any of us could prepare. Had this happened later in his life, we would have all been more financially ready for what was to come. Now, we are facing tens of thousands in unexpected medical bills, travel for his family from the Philippines, and memorial and funeral expenses. Any donation or even sharing of this page will be greatly appreciated.

WHAT HAPPENED

From Adrian's Perspective: It was Saturday morning, October 8th, the morning of my art gallery exhibit. I had been working on this for months, and it was the first time I would showcase my art in my hometown, San Francisco. I had the previous exhibit in LA the week prior, so my parents had waited for the showing in the bay to come to instead. As I'm driving to set up for my gallery, I get the call from my mom that at the time, was unknowingly going to change my life forever. She had told me my dad has fallen, from a seizure and a stroke, and couln't get up. She initially told me it was okay, not to worry, and to continue to make my way to my gallery to set up, but I told her I wasn't going to do that and turned back towards home. When I got home, I was able to talk to him, and let him know I was here, and that this was way more important than my gallery. I told my parents I wanted to cancel. Under no circumstances was I prepared to host my exhibit, focus, or talk to people. They told me the show must go on, and I'd see my dad after. Before they closed the ambulance doors, my dad said to me "Is your gallery set up for tonight? Are you ready?" Out of all the things he could've said, his last words to me was that. Which let me know I couldn't back out now. Even until his speaking moments with us, we was more concerned about making sure we we're taken care of. Which spoke a lot to his character, making sure everyone was good before himself. I told him, "I'm going to make you proud tonight Dad. I'll show you the pictures after ok?" My mom still made her way out that night to take pictures to come back and show him as well. I told the crowd that night he wishes he could've made it and that he would've been proud. We took a group photo so I could show him the amazing turnout the morning after. The next morning came, to the next morning, on to the next morning, and so on... I unfortunately had to come to terms that he never got a chance to see those photos. But he heard it, felt it, and was proud. I told him I loved him, and he would've loved what he seen. He passed as a proud father of his family, good friend and caretaker to all. To everyone who knew my dad, knew that he put others before himself. And for once in his life, he needs the support of everyone that got to experience his kindness and love. I understand everyone's financial situation is different, so anything is appreciated. Whether its kind words, $1, or just by sharing this page. My family and I appreciate it more than you know.

(Night of the gallery exhibit, October 8, 2022)

Annabelle's Perspective (Mother/Wife)

My husband Dan suddenly passed away.

Dan and I have been married for 34 1/2 years. It was just last week we were so excited planning to celebrate our 35th wedding anniversary next year with our two children Adrian and Andrea. But he suddenly passed away without any warning. He is loved by everyone because of his Filipino cooking. Even though it was just the two of us the past few years, he always cooked food as if he’s feeding a battalion because he liked to share it with everyone.

Dan loved to garden and beautifying our home. Even on his last day, he was planning on cleaning the garage before going to Adrian’s exhibit. He was so excited for Adrian’s big event representing Filipino American History Month. He was unable to see it due to a massive stroke. We were not prepared for this, and it has been shocking and sudden.

Dan was loved by everyone that knew him as their kuya, uncle, dad, and dog grandpa.

-Mommy

Andrea's Perspective (Daughter)

My dad and I were similar in ways I didn’t always recognize. We bonded about his gardening and home renovations, our similar views on stuff on the news, and what I was cooking for breakfast, lunch, or dinner. He loved when I would send him photos of the meals I was eating and when I was traveling. Even if I lived across the country, I made sure to keep my dad close to me.

My dad was our foundation. He made sure we were always taken care of, whether it be cooking meals, financially, giving typical dad advice on cars, or cleaning our home. There was little he left us to worry about when things were handled by him. I loved that he showed us what it meant to be a supportive, caring, and loving dad.

MEMORIAL AND FUNERAL EXPENSES

Visitation and Funeral Service Package $7,500

Church, Priest, Mass Service $2,000

Permits, Tax, Paperwork $700

Casket $3,500

Cemetary Plot $30,000

Burial service $9,000

Gravestone $3,500

Floral Service $1500

Food catering for viewings & Funeral Reception $2,000

Overall Estimated Expenses: $60,000

It really is such a damn shame how much it costs to die in this country and how much these places prey on making the most profits off of our emotional vulnerability. It tethers between wanting your loved ones to have the best, versus what is realistic to afford. So thank you all again for what ever you may be able to do.