Crystal's Fight for Life

Update:  August 31 2020


Yesterday we found that the cancer has spread to the thyroid cartilage, lungs and pelvis bone. A dagger went through my already tired heart. Immunotherapy may not be provided now. Surgery in Edmonton is no longer an option.

Standard of care FAILED us, its over, it didn't help her cancer instead it made it spread faster and it's now out of control and her life is in danger. The barrage of tests still didn't uncover what is causing the nausea and the vomiting. Her lymph nodes are not draining properly and that is what the discharge coming from the open wound on her cheek consists of which is poisoning her.

I was up all night devastated. I don't wish this feeling on anyone. The pain and anguish is to much to bear. This can't be it, this can't be over. I started researching hard revisiting what we tried before and trying to find new insight on doses. New stuff we didn't try before. We will try all of it all at once and pray for the best. There is no other option.

We will try 9 different things concurrent with wheatgrass juice and Phoenix tears assuming she can keep this down. The cost= A little over $10,000. I won't go into more detail but can do so privately if you wish. I want to avoid judgement and outside analysis. No other option,
The time is now and we don't have much time as it is.

I won't even go into how much we've spent on Phoenix tears, Vitamin C, Artemisinin, b17, Appricot Kernels Quercetin, Cuban Blue Skorpion Venom, liquid Iodine, Jiogulan, Vit K Selenium, all the B Vitamins, MSM, DMSO, Curcumin, Carrots ( 15 to 20 lbs a day for 3 months ), Wormwood, Wheatgrass. Never mind some of the prescriptions that Crystal has required over the last year. Hundreds of bottles. That's where the majority of all the money has gone to thus far, thank you. We didn't buy anything, didn't eat out, we just lived minimally, humbled.

If you can help again please do, if you can't please share this. I can't let her go, I can't. We love her so much, she is our world, she has the soul of an angel.

If you don't like GoFundMe please use my email [email redacted]

Thank you so much for everything, thank you for your support, thank you for your good thoughts and prayers, thank you for the love, thank you for your hope........

https://www.gofundme.com/f/crystal039s-fight-with-tongue-cancer

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Original from March 

On January 22nd 2020 3 days before my dad passed away Crystal and I got the most devastating news that she had tongue cancer. A Pet scan was then scheduled for Feb 8th in Vancouver and on Feb 18th they had confirmed a 3.2cm by 2.8 cm growth in her tongue with metastatic lymph nodes in her neck. The cancer is called squamous cell carcinoma HPV negative. The pain has intensified lately and it's unbearable with multiple visits to the ER and strong opiod meds being prescribed that doesn't even dial down the amount of pain she is in. 

As of today March 7th she just got admitted to the hospital for monitoring and pain control.

She will have to undergo surgery of the tongue in Kelowna. They will be taking half her tongue out and will rebuild it with muscle and tissue from her leg or forearm. They  will have to split her jaw to make room and the surgery will be 14 to 18 hours long with 4 doctors, 1 having to be a cardiovascular surgeon on standby incase of nerve or vein issues. She will  be in the hospital for 2 to 3 weeks with a feeding tube and a breathing tube.

There is a chance that her whole tongue will have to be removed. We hope and pray that this does not happen as her quality of life will greatly suffer for the rest of her life.

After all of this a massive dose of chemo and radiation will follow as to give her the best chance at survival and treating this cancer. 

Every doctor agrees that tongue cancer is the worst cancer to have because of the pain, the lack of eating and even swallowing is a chore, never mind just plain talking. No other cancer aside from rectal cancer comes close. Also because the healthy mouth cells divide and multiply so rapidly already in the mouth once they become cancerous this cancer is very fast, invasive and aggressive. 

We never asked for help and always tried to do it on our own but that was before kids, that was before having to deal with a life or death situation such as cancer. As I am the sole income earner I simply cannot concentrate on anything. I love my beautiful Crystal so much and she doesn't deserve this cancer no one does, but she certainly doesn't deserve to add any financial stress. I will have to be her primary caregiver while also continuing to raise our sweet, adorable and innocent 3 year old twin girls.

This will be a long ride and we simply need help even if you cant afford anything that is fine maybe just share this post. Anything helps at this point. 

Anyone that knows Crystal knows how kind, gentle and amazing she is. She doesn't have a single bad bone in her body. She always was so willing to help anyone with anything they needed and would stress out over other people's issues they happen to deal with at the time. She fought so hard for 7 years to have kids and now they finally came and for her to have this threat looming on her like this it's excruciating to witness. Please pray for her recovery and strength to get through this. 

Thank you 

Her loving fiance of 12 years Tilo

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