Help Crystal medically relocate to family in FL.

My mother is 54 years old and was just diagnosed with lung cancer. It is treatable, but not curable. She has appointed me POA and we are needing to relocate her to Florida so that I can manage her palliative care properly.

She has been so many things. A brave single mother. A thankful daughter. A protective sister. A fun aunt, the kind that would help you meticulously set up your Barbie houses with all of the neighborhood kids...and have you belly laughing so hard that you spill soda all over yourself! A HUGE fan of cats. Her life has been full of its share of ups and downs.

After she left an abusive marriage, my grandparents took us in. We lived as a family for a good few years. In 2004, my grandmother took her own life. This fractured our family and we all coped in different ways.

My grandfather and uncle drowned themselves with work to keep the house. My mother moved in with her boyfriend. I got pregnant and moved to Florida. My sons grandfather lost his own battle with cancer in our second year living there.

My mother suffered severely after my grandmothers death, and started experiencing delusions and hallucinations. After 10 years of not being able to recognize us, refusing help, loosing her father to a stroke and the loss of her boyfriend, she finally accepted medical intervention.

She was diagnosed with PTSD and schizophrenia. She was placed in an assisted living facility that specialized in mental health management. Once she started her medication management, we got her back! We were able to talk again. She loved taking walks with my uncle at the park, and studying her Bible.

Writing all of this, is extremely difficult. Not only because I have to determine how to sever my emotions enough to do what I need to for her, but also because there's so much history to put aside so I can get my point across clearly. I've revised this numerous times, because I felt emotion was getting in the way of my intent.

To let your family and self been seen so openly by strangers and friends alike is terrifying. I am not great at asking for help, nor so blatently talking about our obstacles as a family.

However, my mothers dilemma has compelled me to swallow my pride and request help, before her time runs out. Her prognosis is gauged at 3 months to a year, and we keep running into issues with infection. After finding out she had MRCA pneumonia on top of the lung cancer, her lung had collapsed. She has been through the ringer.

She needs closely managed care. Although the hospital is the best place for her right now, she is eventually going to be released into someone's care. I know my mother will lose this battle with cancer. I just want to give her a good life before she does.

She has been back and forth from acute rehabs, only to end up back in the hospital. The rehabs she gets released to, do not know how to properly manage all of her medications...and has gone weeks at a time without them.

It is a finicky situation, managing her mental health properly and treating the cancer.

This has all lead me to obtaining POA for her, so I can assist her in living the remainder of her life as peacefully and contently as possible.

What I am trying to do, is get her medically relocated to be here with me and her grandson for her remaining time with us. I will be using donations to pay for medical relocation to Florida. If I keep traveling back and forth between NJ and FL, it will financially devastate me. Her insurance will pay for her treatments and a home health aid. Of course, we will have funeral costs at the end of this journey as well.

After everything my mother has been through, I don't want her dying in a nursing home. I would like for her to be surrounded by her family that loves her and will meet her daily needs. We can bring her psychological comfort she can't really get from living in a nursing home. Especially the ones she has been to.

I know we are not owed anything in this life. It is embarrassing and draining to have to ask for help. I just feel she deserves to be as comfortable and content as possible, before she exits this life. So it has lead me to abandoning my reserve, and putting all of this out there in the goal of making this happen. Thank you for reading, and thank you for whatever you are able to contribute. It means the world to us.