Crystal and Jarade's IVF journey
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Crystal and I have been together for 13 years and married for the last five years. After we got married we were talking about the idea of having children and how many we would like to have, so we slowly started to try.
While this was going on Crystals father, Paul Kaufman, was diagnosed with an aggressive form of prostate cancer. Paul being in his 70's already opted to try chemotherapy, along with hormone injection shots rather than surgery. Things were very hard for Paul as he only had his daughter, my wife, to take him back and forth to the hospital for treatments, doctors visits and anything else that had came up. It was then that we decided that we would put what we wanted on hold until her dad was better or decided to go through with the surgery. Paul put up a fight for four years and we lost him April 14th of this year.
Crystal was devastated, and has been trying to get refocused on what we want to do, but still has a hard time that she lost her first and most important man in her life. I try to help as much as I can with listening to her talk, being there for her emotionally, but things are still tough.
Over our time of trying to conceive we have found out a lot about ourselves. First we found out that we both aren't able to have children naturally. Next we had to both have surgery, Crystal had stage 4 endometriosis, and Polycystic ovary syndrome, and was only born with one ovary and Fallopian tube. I had a varicocele that need to be removed due to the lack of motile sperm I was producing, and also had to be placed on medication that was not covered by insurance so costs were beginning to amount. After both of our treatments we set a date to start our journey.
When we decided on a date I had one more appointment for another analysis. When the results were in we were both surprised, my result actually got worse. The doctor was stumped so we figured we would try one more surgery to see of they could find any motile sperm. Any others who struggle with infertility and have to do treatments know that if you don't have half or all of the cost up front things will not begin. So surgery is scheduled for the end of November or a cycle to start at the end of December early January. Medications, and other procedures that Crystal will have to go through like ovary stimulation, daily shots, and then the egg retrieval and transfer are all painful and will be stressful on her and on our relationship, but we know that this is what we want to do/have to do so we can enjoy the soft laugh of a little one someday.
We have contemplated this for a while and finally decided to ask for help. We both understand that we will be questioned by a lot of people, but we are ready for it. We both feel that we are going to be great parents and know it isn't fair to ask others for money, especially with the holidays so close and also everyone else having families and struggles of their own.
Just know that every donation sent will be greatly appreciated, and we will be thankful for every cent. Thank you from both Crystal and I for taking the time to read this and make a decision of helping or even just sharing this to spread it around.
While this was going on Crystals father, Paul Kaufman, was diagnosed with an aggressive form of prostate cancer. Paul being in his 70's already opted to try chemotherapy, along with hormone injection shots rather than surgery. Things were very hard for Paul as he only had his daughter, my wife, to take him back and forth to the hospital for treatments, doctors visits and anything else that had came up. It was then that we decided that we would put what we wanted on hold until her dad was better or decided to go through with the surgery. Paul put up a fight for four years and we lost him April 14th of this year.
Crystal was devastated, and has been trying to get refocused on what we want to do, but still has a hard time that she lost her first and most important man in her life. I try to help as much as I can with listening to her talk, being there for her emotionally, but things are still tough.
Over our time of trying to conceive we have found out a lot about ourselves. First we found out that we both aren't able to have children naturally. Next we had to both have surgery, Crystal had stage 4 endometriosis, and Polycystic ovary syndrome, and was only born with one ovary and Fallopian tube. I had a varicocele that need to be removed due to the lack of motile sperm I was producing, and also had to be placed on medication that was not covered by insurance so costs were beginning to amount. After both of our treatments we set a date to start our journey.
When we decided on a date I had one more appointment for another analysis. When the results were in we were both surprised, my result actually got worse. The doctor was stumped so we figured we would try one more surgery to see of they could find any motile sperm. Any others who struggle with infertility and have to do treatments know that if you don't have half or all of the cost up front things will not begin. So surgery is scheduled for the end of November or a cycle to start at the end of December early January. Medications, and other procedures that Crystal will have to go through like ovary stimulation, daily shots, and then the egg retrieval and transfer are all painful and will be stressful on her and on our relationship, but we know that this is what we want to do/have to do so we can enjoy the soft laugh of a little one someday.
We have contemplated this for a while and finally decided to ask for help. We both understand that we will be questioned by a lot of people, but we are ready for it. We both feel that we are going to be great parents and know it isn't fair to ask others for money, especially with the holidays so close and also everyone else having families and struggles of their own.
Just know that every donation sent will be greatly appreciated, and we will be thankful for every cent. Thank you from both Crystal and I for taking the time to read this and make a decision of helping or even just sharing this to spread it around.
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Jarade Purk
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Tama, IA