Moving Back to California

Recently, in order to effectively make use of the degree I'm working towards, it was decided that my girlfriend and I make our way back to California to live in the LA area. This move will take us closer to my school and will allow me greater opportunities when I graduate. On top of that we'll be in a much better location for job opportunities in the field I'm moving towards. (picture related) I will be attempting to return to working as a game tester when we move back to California.

Expenses the Funds raised go towards: 
Plane tickets
Temporary lodgings while looking for an apartment
Groceries

It would mean the world to me if the community here would help these dreams come true. I would like to be able to get these funds within the next two weeks. This will allow me to work out the month at my current job in order to make a little bit of funds from that. So I'm not relying entirely on the community to get this move done.

Words from my girlfriend: "I guess I should begin with the fact that I deleted my old page. I did it on the spur of the moment, and soon after regretted it. I do like being able to share the inane little odds and ends I find interesting, even if barely anyone else finds them as interesting as I do.

What’s going on in my life right now is I am trying desperately to get out of a bad situation. My home life is absolutely horrific. My fiancee and I live with an ex-boyfriend of mine. It was a bad idea from the very first moment, but we were in a situation where we had absolutely no other options.

This “man” (I use the term loosely), is incredibly violent. It consists mostly of verbal and psychological abuse, but there have been instances where he has thrown things, punched things, gotten right in my face and screamed at me like I were a piece of garbage (usually because of something completely asinine).

He absolutely loses his shit over the smallest of things. If you eat the last packet of instant oatmeal, he goes ballistic. He has on numerous occasions gone off on me for doing the smallest thing one way, and the very next time I do the same thing (but do it the way he insists it needs to be done), he then yells at me for how I did it that time too. There is literally nothing I can do right.

I get screamed at for my sleeping schedule, I am told constantly that since I don’t work I am less than he is. Though I have an income, and he who is without a job (and has been on and off for 5 years) has zero money coming in to contribute to the household. In the past 5 years, he has had 8 different jobs, and every time he has been let go it has been the fault of everyone but himself.

He contributes nothing to the household. My fiancee and I pay for everything. The rent, the water, the electricity, the gas, the internet, groceries, HIS car insurance, HIS gas for his car to get from place to place, HIS cigarettes, all of it. Yet, whenever either of us spend ANY money on ourselves, he immediately starts in on us about how we are wasting money that could go into the household. Not taking into account that every penny we have DOES in fact go into the household.

Furthermore, he sexually harasses me on a daily basis. He will NOT keep his hands off of me. He has been told REPEATEDLY over the course of 2 years that I am not his girlfriend, and he is not my boyfriend; however, he still feels he is entitled to grab my ass, or watch me while I change my clothes. He is always in my face trying to kiss me, he hangs on me from the time I wake up, until the time he goes to bed. The depression I am suffering from being in this situation has caused me to sleep all day and stay up all night so that I can avoid him as much as humanly possible. The downside to this is that my fiancee is on a daytime schedule, and I rarely get to see her at all, because I am trying so hard to avoid HIM.

I am terrified of our room mate. His anger is becoming more, and more volatile and to be frank I am genuinely afraid he may lose his temper to the point where he will get physical towards me. It’s gotten close to that many times before. Times where he has pinned my wrists to my sides, while screaming in my face, or pushing me against the kitchen sink and causing me to wrench my already bad back.

He doesn’t act like this in front of anyone else he knows. So, when I tried to go to his dad for help, he didn’t believe me and of course that only made it worse.

My fiancee and I are desperately trying to move away from Ohio to California. She can be closer to her college, she has an excellent job waiting for her. I have the opportunity to go back to school myself, get my HS diploma, and then go to college so that I can get off of the disability income that I have had no choice but to be on for so very long.

If we stay here in Ohio, I know that our relationship will deteriorate, it can only weather so much. I know that I will end up stuck here with this person who has become my jailer. I know that I will not be able to get my life back on track, and start the life I so desperately want to start with the absolute love of my life.

If there is anything that anyone can do to help, be it a small donation to our gofundme page towards our moving fees, or support, or sharing our story and info so that someone somewhere may find it in their hearts to help us… then please, please, please do so. I’m not one for begging, or looking for pity, or looking for handouts, but I have exhausted every option available to us.

Please, find it in your hearts to help, even if it’s just a dollar, or a retweet, or a repost. Anything at all will help us break free of this nightmare.

Thanks for listening." Source: https://woahlocksthisandthat.wordpress.com/2018/03/25/18/

Donations

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  • Raymond alvarez 
    • $5 
    • 37 mos
  • Brian Stufflebean 
    • $10 
    • 37 mos
  • Anonymous 
    • $160 (Offline)
    • 37 mos
  • Anonymous 
    • $50 (Offline)
    • 37 mos
  • Anonymous 
    • $1,500 
    • 37 mos
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Organizer

Justin Bevier 
Organizer
Fairborn, OH
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