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With tears in my eyes and an ache in my heart, I share that the greatest man I have ever known and ever loved, my daddy, David Lamensky, was reunited after 25 years 8 months and 23 days with his beautiful bride and my angel mom, Patti Lamensky.

These past 9 months have been the hardest on his body, so I give thanks to our God that he is no longer in pain, no longer suffering. He is walking and dancing with mom. He is hugging his mom and dad and his mother in law and father in law.

Since 2019 when dad had his first major health scare…EVER…he has been my focus. I may not always have been the best caregiver in the world, and he could drive me bananas, but I would not trade a single moment of these last several years.

Last night I watched as he found peace. I was holding his hand and told him it was ok to go be with mom again. I told him to go talk church shop with my Godfather George. And I told him that Uncle Lee had probably already got some stuff for him to help with, so he needed to get up to heaven and help.

I played our song by the Dujka Brothers, and his body relaxed. He of course took his final breath when I stepped out, but I know he was trying to ease a little bit of the pain.

I am at a loss. I don’t need a meal train. I am one person. I know you want to ask how you can help, and in many ways I’m still in shock and numb.

The only things I can say right now in the immediate is Venmo or gift cards to places to eat, or Invitations to eat if you live near by is option number one. I now live in a house on my own. I’m not the greatest cook. I need to get better. But option number one insures that I am eating or getting out of the house to get food. I am functioning and not just isolating.

Option 2: I have started this gofundme. While being with dad has been ideal, it has also come at a cost. I am currently on the job hunt, and I want to get back into my call to ministry. I want to be a hospice chaplain. I have been applying, but when dad took this turn over the past week, I’ve slowed my search. And let’s be honest, services aren’t cheap and there are things that dad has left behind that I will need to take care of in the near future. I can’t be mad at him. He was always striving to make sure we had the best life that we could.

I promised him that I would be ok and I would find my way in this world, and I will be the pastor he watched me work so hard to become again.

So this gofundme is to help offset funeral expenses, to try to nest some money for the future. To continue on David’s legacy.

And option 3: prayers. Texts to remind me that I have people and I have friends and I can HAVE a life, and it is OK to do so. I have been isolated to caring for him and I’ve forgotten how to be the social butterfly he always said I was.

I love you all. Be patient with me. This is a whole new world. If I suddenly have dark humor laugh or just let it slide for now.

A celebration of life will take place in a few weeks. I will share once finalized.

With love,

Jacqueline