Help Abbey get her surgery!

Hi there! I'm AP and this GoFundMe is for my best friend Abbey. I wanted to do something to help her on her journey and I thought this might be a great way to get started.

I want to share a little bit about Abbey before I explain why I'm reaching out to you all. Abbey is selfless, honest, genuine, and kind. She's funny, sensitive, and dependable. Abbey ALWAYS puts other's first and will help anyone at any time. She is an EMT for a critical care transport company but before that we worked together for a hospital based EMS service. When we worked on the ambulance together Abbey showed me the meaning of true kindness. She has the kind of heart that is second to none. Abbey has always made sure that her patients, her friends, and her family knew that regardless of what was needed, she would be there. And she really is always there.

Since Abbey was really young she always knew she was a member of the LGBTQ+ community. She came out to the world and blossomed into a beautiful and strong woman who is unapologetically herself. She has inspired so many people to live and love authentically and to be exactly who they are. And she has always been a safe space for anyone who needs help, especially for those who are going through struggles she has gone through. She is extraordinarily proud to be part of the LGBTQ+ community and regardless of the obstacles she faces, she will always be the loudest voice for her community. As her best friend, I am proud to see her constantly learning about herself and growing into the person she is today.

But as she's grown in her journey of self discovery, Abbey realized that there were still aspects of her physical self that didn't quite line up with her mental self. When she looks in the mirror she see someone she doesn't recognize anymore. Abbey has taken steps to line up the physical and mental and this includes top surgery. Though Abbey isn't transitioning in the "typical" fashion, she is transitioning into a more androgynous and gender fluid way. Abbey doesn't feel comfortable in her body anymore and as someone currently battling breast cancer, I completely understand this feeling. It's the worst, trust me.

Abbey doesn't often ask for help. If she does it's "can you go feed the dog while I'm away", "which bowtie looks better", or "can I vent for a second". She never asks for financial help because Abbey is too proud and would rather figure it out on her own. Unfortunately, this time she can't figure it out alone. Her surgery might have to be postponed due to unexpected financial requirements that have to be met prior to the surgery. She is heartbroken because she has jumped through hoop after hoop to meet all the other requirements before surgery could even be considered. I told her I wanted to do what I could to help and she was hesitant. When I talked to Abbey about this she said she didn't think she deserved it. She doesn't think she's worthy of people's financial help. She thinks that because this isn't physically life threatening that it is less than. That couldn't be farther from the truth. She is the most deserving.

I know that times are tough for so many people and Abbey certainly understands that too but I know she would be eternally grateful for any help, we both would be. Thank you so much for any and all help!!

-AP