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June 5th 2019 we both welcomed and said goodbye to our daughter Danielle Marie Vance. She was brought into the world far to early due to an infection that threatened both her life and mine and ended up causing preterm labor. She had been a healthy happy baby since she started moving. She would play hide and seek with the doctors while they tried to get ultrasound pictures of her.
It was devastating to hear that we were going to lose her after a very easy pregnancy. Doctor's said she was healthy and strong but not ready to survive on the outside. We had no choice once the infection spread, the risk to my life had become to high and if something happened to me she would of had no chance. It was the worse experience to have to go through.
Our journey to getting Danielle was a long and hard one. We'd been together 9 years and trying to have a baby for 8 years. After a year of no luck I got myself tested, I was told I has secondary infertility and it would be extremely hard to impossible to get pregnant. This was a devastating blow to hear as we wanted to expand and complete our family. In October 2018 I had been testing myself to see if I was pregnant after not having a cycle for over a month, only to get all negative test. Early November I woke up to extremely painful cramps and bleeding heavily. I figured it was just a bad period as I was late. After it not stopping by the next morning I went to the ER, they told me I had a miscarriage. A week later I still didnt feel right so I saw another doctor, turns out I was still pregnant but it was a rare cervical ectopic pregnancy and it was about to burst which would of been life threatening. I ended up at a Boston hospital that night to have surgery, going under I was told there was a chance I would wake up without a uterus. Luckily they were able to save me and my uterus. This was a devastating blow after years of trying to end up pregnant with a pregnancy that wasn't viable.
February 2019 I started to not feel like myself so I ended up taking a pregnancy test, it didn't show anything meaning it was a bad test. I had to wait to the next morning to try again as I didn't want to take 2 at the same time. The next morning I took another test and it came back positive. I was so excited but scared at the same time. I called the doctor and they scheduled me the next day for an ultrasound to make sure this baby was in the correct location, and she was in the perfect location. We were so excited and thankful. We were finally going to get our baby. We kept a close eye with extra doctor visits to help relieve our worries and everything was going great till our gender ultrasound.
They did the ultrasound and told us your having a girl. We were so happy as we had already decided on a girls name Danielle Marie. Daniel from my husband's middle name and Marie from my middle name. We were already in love with her since day one but it was great to be able to call her by name. Before we left that appointment they did another scan to check my cervix, and it turned out not good. Turned our my cervix was already preparing for labor. I was rushed for the hospital and had a surgery to close my cervix scheduled for the next day. By the next day it had gotten worse, but they did the surgery to try their best. Because of the cervix being open we were at risk of infection so I was put on a ton of antibiotics and remained in the hospital for 2 more days. Once released full strict bedrest till my follow up the following week. No complications and a week later we thought we were doing great, we were wrong. We had developed an infection that was claiming our baby's life and threatening mine.
We went into the hospital knowing we were going to lose our baby girl, it killed us. She was stillborn at 11:41pm June 5th. She was so small yet so tall at .5lbs and 9 inches long at just 21 weeks along.
What we need help with is the cost of burying our little girl. We don't want her to be left alone so we are hoping to be able to bury her in a family plot that we can be laid to rest with her in the future. Even though she never had a chance in the outside world she was very much a part of our lives. We love and miss her so much.
It was devastating to hear that we were going to lose her after a very easy pregnancy. Doctor's said she was healthy and strong but not ready to survive on the outside. We had no choice once the infection spread, the risk to my life had become to high and if something happened to me she would of had no chance. It was the worse experience to have to go through.
Our journey to getting Danielle was a long and hard one. We'd been together 9 years and trying to have a baby for 8 years. After a year of no luck I got myself tested, I was told I has secondary infertility and it would be extremely hard to impossible to get pregnant. This was a devastating blow to hear as we wanted to expand and complete our family. In October 2018 I had been testing myself to see if I was pregnant after not having a cycle for over a month, only to get all negative test. Early November I woke up to extremely painful cramps and bleeding heavily. I figured it was just a bad period as I was late. After it not stopping by the next morning I went to the ER, they told me I had a miscarriage. A week later I still didnt feel right so I saw another doctor, turns out I was still pregnant but it was a rare cervical ectopic pregnancy and it was about to burst which would of been life threatening. I ended up at a Boston hospital that night to have surgery, going under I was told there was a chance I would wake up without a uterus. Luckily they were able to save me and my uterus. This was a devastating blow after years of trying to end up pregnant with a pregnancy that wasn't viable.
February 2019 I started to not feel like myself so I ended up taking a pregnancy test, it didn't show anything meaning it was a bad test. I had to wait to the next morning to try again as I didn't want to take 2 at the same time. The next morning I took another test and it came back positive. I was so excited but scared at the same time. I called the doctor and they scheduled me the next day for an ultrasound to make sure this baby was in the correct location, and she was in the perfect location. We were so excited and thankful. We were finally going to get our baby. We kept a close eye with extra doctor visits to help relieve our worries and everything was going great till our gender ultrasound.
They did the ultrasound and told us your having a girl. We were so happy as we had already decided on a girls name Danielle Marie. Daniel from my husband's middle name and Marie from my middle name. We were already in love with her since day one but it was great to be able to call her by name. Before we left that appointment they did another scan to check my cervix, and it turned out not good. Turned our my cervix was already preparing for labor. I was rushed for the hospital and had a surgery to close my cervix scheduled for the next day. By the next day it had gotten worse, but they did the surgery to try their best. Because of the cervix being open we were at risk of infection so I was put on a ton of antibiotics and remained in the hospital for 2 more days. Once released full strict bedrest till my follow up the following week. No complications and a week later we thought we were doing great, we were wrong. We had developed an infection that was claiming our baby's life and threatening mine.
We went into the hospital knowing we were going to lose our baby girl, it killed us. She was stillborn at 11:41pm June 5th. She was so small yet so tall at .5lbs and 9 inches long at just 21 weeks along.
What we need help with is the cost of burying our little girl. We don't want her to be left alone so we are hoping to be able to bury her in a family plot that we can be laid to rest with her in the future. Even though she never had a chance in the outside world she was very much a part of our lives. We love and miss her so much.