Bring Ronny Back: Support His Family

In the early morning hours of Friday August 15th our Ronny died in a terrible car accident.

Ronny was unique. The only thing bigger than Ronny’s character and personality was his heart. Ronny loved with all his heart. I (humbly) like to think he got that from me, my mom, and Ronny’s best friend-turned best brother Dylan.

Ronny epitomized the saying, “live each day to the fullest” – that he did.

Dylan came to me as a young teen and asked if Ronny could live with us. That was 20 years ago. The boys have been inseparable since. That bond made the boys brothers which meant I gained a bonus son.

A son I couldn’t love more had I given birth to him myself.

Dylan and Ronny were closer than family. Sometimes I thought they shared the same brain. Not in a bad way but they often shared the exact same thoughts, perspective, and feelings on most things. Probably “twins” in another life that found each other when they both needed each other most in this life.

Ronny went to Colorado Thursday morning to see a concert. After the concert the details are not quite clear but at some point Ronny was in a fatal car accident around 2 AM.

Obviously at 32 years old this was completely unexpected. Ronny being in Colorado has brought up some complications that no one can really help. Amidst the emotional toll this will take on Dylan, my mom, and myself here are some details that his huge group of friends can help me with at this time.

I want to bring Ronny’s remains home. I want to help pay off the car Ronny drives but is in Dylan’s name so it does not become a bigger problem for Dylan or myself. Dylan signed for the car when Ronny was starting over after a financial move and breakup. Dylan just had a baby and I was out of work almost a year. We cannot afford any additional expenses.

My biggest concern is getting Ronny home but then of course I want to help my mom and Dylan care for Ronny’s beloved pup Sir Lancealot, aka Lance.

Lance was often the reason Ronny went home. Lance kept Ronny always grounded and was his literal shadow. Lance was everything to Ronny.

Although that is true, Ronny had recently also really taken to being a “Funcle” (fun uncle) to Dylan’s girls, Piper and Paisley. Just last week Ronny spent the day with Piper at Chuckie Cheese so Meghan and Dylan could have alone time with the baby. I have been at their home at least 2 times a week for the last 7 months and because Ronny lived with Dylan, Meghan, and the girls, I also got to see Ronny so often. I will cherish those long conversations we have had while cooing with Paisley and giggling with Piper.

Ronny living with Dylan has also brought up additional financial concerns. Ronny helped with half the bills. Dylan signed for Ronny’s car and the lease on their home. Dylan has a brand new baby and his (future) wife is working very little to be home with both girls as often as she can. Ronny living there has helped give Meghan that opportunity and we are all grateful for that. That leaves Dylan unsure now of the future. Dylan and Meghan are in no position to think of moving. Ronny would want Dylan and the girls to have some security right now while we all figure out the details now while also getting through the emotional aspect here.

Just under two years ago Dylan and I lost my wife, Dylan and Ronny’s “Nother Mother”. We are not through the grieving process of that loss and now we are facing days without Ronny’s incredibly contagious, enormous smile.

It’s going be dark days for a while. Regardless, please reach out to Dylan, Omar, Kayla, Meghan, Joey, Steve, Jony, Zach, or the girls Piper and Paisley or anyone I am forgetting here that has been so close to Ronny all these years. We're all going to need all of you through this.

Or to my mom. My mom/Ronny's Gram who cooks for Ronny weekly, shares “custody” of Lance just so Ronny has a reason to go by so often for “Gram Hugs” and has never not treated Ronny like one of her own grandkids. Because he has always been.

He has always been ours.

My son. Heart and Soul. All the ways it mattered.

Please help if you can.