Bring Home Baby Gile: For Christine & Cade
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Growing up it seemed that if you wanted to become a parent it was as easy as making a single choice. What if that choice was no longer available to you...?
What if your dreams of holding a little baby of your own was limited to just a dream... what if it was you...
Infertility- one of the hardest words one might ever have to hear and a disease that carries a grief burden equivalent to a cancer diagnosis can be a nightmare to endure. What you may or may not know is that two people that we all love and care for have been living this nightmare every.single.day for 4 years now.
Since 2016, Christine & Cade Gile have been on the emotional and financial roller coaster of battling infertility in hopes that they might someday bring home a baby to their loving arms.
Every step of this process has been devastating not only on their hearts and emotions but also on their financial well being. They have exhausted their resources.
The purpose of this fundraiser is to help relieve some of that financial stress and allow Christine & Cade to focus on making the right decisions that may lead to finally obtaining their dream of growing their family. They are about to embark on their next step, IVF, which comes at at cost of $25k per round. There is no greater gift a human can give to one another. Let's give them the gift of opportunity!
CHRISTINE & CADE'S STORY IN THEIR OWN WORDS BELOW:
Confusion. Frustration. Anger. Sadness. Guilt. Anxiety. Hope. Appointments. Tests. Results. Heartbreak over and OVER every month... Infertility.
Cade and I always knew that we wanted to be parents someday. So when we had been trying for 2 years, we knew something must be wrong.
I’ve always said that I’d be fine going in for fertility help if it were needed... but let me tell you, when it came down to it, I felt paralyzed and just couldn’t make the appointment. What if I find out something I don’t want to know and can’t handle? Here is where Cade was so much stronger than I. He secretly made an appointment to get his fertility checked in September of 2018. Long story short - since then we’ve both had several appointments and procedures from Sept.-Nov. and were told the sad news in mid-December that there was no chance of us having biological children because Cade is unable to produce sperm.
Heartbreak - utter heartbreak. What do you mean we can’t have biological kids?? What is the reason?? Science can’t reverse any of this?? WTF!!! This has always been my biggest fear in life- worrying about getting pregnant when you’re “not ready” and then you can’t get pregnant when you want to! How is this happening to us? (Also, can I get a freaking refund on all the $ spent on birth control over the years? ♀️♀️)
We know that this pain and loss affects not only us but our family and close friends. There are others struggling with all forms of infertility and those on the other end who get pregnant without even trying! Sometimes life isn’t fair. I know there are soooooo many things in life that could be significantly worse than infertility - but knowing that fact doesn’t take away from the pain we feel.
Since then we have dived into the world of infertility resulting in a bit of a belly flop! So much to know and understand. We searched donor sperm for months trying to find the “right” male donor to biologically father our child/children. We spent probably $500 JUST researching potential donors. Each donor company (called a cryobank) has their own rules for how you can view their donors and for what amount of money before you can buy vials of sperm. And everything after that information wise is extra - do you want to know what this donor looked like as a kid? That’s an extra $100. Do you want to see the genetic testing? That’ll be another $300. Sperm vials go for $600-1,400 for ONE shot of pregnancy. Depends on your donor. Then, you have to pay a monthly fee to keep it frozen. Yup. To have it shipped here to MN wouldn’t be too costly right? Wrong. It’s $380 EACH TIME and it only lasts for 7 days in the tank so you better have planned things out perfectly or you will be throwing away $$$ because the sperm will die. That happened to us once and it was AWFUL! We bought 8 vials of sperm for about $6k + storage fees + shipping it here brings us to around $9k. Then there are the medications that aren’t covered by most insurance which is super disappointing and costly each round.
We’ve now had 6 failed rounds of IUI or intrauterine insemination. After the 6th failed my OB said she thought IVF would have to be the next path for us. Apparently my body is just difficult and stubborn as my mind We only have 3 vials of sperm left and then we need to begin the process of researching donors again and finding a new one to purchase (our current donor is sold out and no longer fulfilling orders). We really wanted to be able to have biological children so they could talk with one another about their unique situation in being brought into life. May not be possible now.
IVF costs about $25k ONE TIME with everything included. We really need financial support since none of this is covered by insurance sadly. Something that most people can do “for free.”
Thank you for considering to help us financially and hopefully fulfill our dreams of starting a family!
Gratefully and humbly,
Christine & Cade
***Not wanting to use Go Fund Me? Reach out to Cade and Christine directly!
What if your dreams of holding a little baby of your own was limited to just a dream... what if it was you...
Infertility- one of the hardest words one might ever have to hear and a disease that carries a grief burden equivalent to a cancer diagnosis can be a nightmare to endure. What you may or may not know is that two people that we all love and care for have been living this nightmare every.single.day for 4 years now.
Since 2016, Christine & Cade Gile have been on the emotional and financial roller coaster of battling infertility in hopes that they might someday bring home a baby to their loving arms.
Every step of this process has been devastating not only on their hearts and emotions but also on their financial well being. They have exhausted their resources.
The purpose of this fundraiser is to help relieve some of that financial stress and allow Christine & Cade to focus on making the right decisions that may lead to finally obtaining their dream of growing their family. They are about to embark on their next step, IVF, which comes at at cost of $25k per round. There is no greater gift a human can give to one another. Let's give them the gift of opportunity!
CHRISTINE & CADE'S STORY IN THEIR OWN WORDS BELOW:
Confusion. Frustration. Anger. Sadness. Guilt. Anxiety. Hope. Appointments. Tests. Results. Heartbreak over and OVER every month... Infertility.
Cade and I always knew that we wanted to be parents someday. So when we had been trying for 2 years, we knew something must be wrong.
I’ve always said that I’d be fine going in for fertility help if it were needed... but let me tell you, when it came down to it, I felt paralyzed and just couldn’t make the appointment. What if I find out something I don’t want to know and can’t handle? Here is where Cade was so much stronger than I. He secretly made an appointment to get his fertility checked in September of 2018. Long story short - since then we’ve both had several appointments and procedures from Sept.-Nov. and were told the sad news in mid-December that there was no chance of us having biological children because Cade is unable to produce sperm.
Heartbreak - utter heartbreak. What do you mean we can’t have biological kids?? What is the reason?? Science can’t reverse any of this?? WTF!!! This has always been my biggest fear in life- worrying about getting pregnant when you’re “not ready” and then you can’t get pregnant when you want to! How is this happening to us? (Also, can I get a freaking refund on all the $ spent on birth control over the years? ♀️♀️)
We know that this pain and loss affects not only us but our family and close friends. There are others struggling with all forms of infertility and those on the other end who get pregnant without even trying! Sometimes life isn’t fair. I know there are soooooo many things in life that could be significantly worse than infertility - but knowing that fact doesn’t take away from the pain we feel.
Since then we have dived into the world of infertility resulting in a bit of a belly flop! So much to know and understand. We searched donor sperm for months trying to find the “right” male donor to biologically father our child/children. We spent probably $500 JUST researching potential donors. Each donor company (called a cryobank) has their own rules for how you can view their donors and for what amount of money before you can buy vials of sperm. And everything after that information wise is extra - do you want to know what this donor looked like as a kid? That’s an extra $100. Do you want to see the genetic testing? That’ll be another $300. Sperm vials go for $600-1,400 for ONE shot of pregnancy. Depends on your donor. Then, you have to pay a monthly fee to keep it frozen. Yup. To have it shipped here to MN wouldn’t be too costly right? Wrong. It’s $380 EACH TIME and it only lasts for 7 days in the tank so you better have planned things out perfectly or you will be throwing away $$$ because the sperm will die. That happened to us once and it was AWFUL! We bought 8 vials of sperm for about $6k + storage fees + shipping it here brings us to around $9k. Then there are the medications that aren’t covered by most insurance which is super disappointing and costly each round.
We’ve now had 6 failed rounds of IUI or intrauterine insemination. After the 6th failed my OB said she thought IVF would have to be the next path for us. Apparently my body is just difficult and stubborn as my mind We only have 3 vials of sperm left and then we need to begin the process of researching donors again and finding a new one to purchase (our current donor is sold out and no longer fulfilling orders). We really wanted to be able to have biological children so they could talk with one another about their unique situation in being brought into life. May not be possible now.
IVF costs about $25k ONE TIME with everything included. We really need financial support since none of this is covered by insurance sadly. Something that most people can do “for free.”
Thank you for considering to help us financially and hopefully fulfill our dreams of starting a family!
Gratefully and humbly,
Christine & Cade
***Not wanting to use Go Fund Me? Reach out to Cade and Christine directly!
Organizer and beneficiary
Miraya Gran
Organizer
Minneapolis, MN
Christine Gile
Beneficiary