Beth’s Funeral Funds

Please help us give Beth a proper Memorial . Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!

I want to share with heavy hearts and sorrow today our beloved Wife,Mother,Nana,Sister,Cousin,and Friend has left us to today and has made an amazing crossover to all eternity and wants us all to know she was grateful to have loved everyone and was grateful she was loved and not to grieve however remember all the crazy fun times we all have shared and till the next time our eyes meet she will be protecting and watching over us and to cherish every moment every laugh and life is too short to be upset and dwell of things to live,laugh,and love as every day shall be your last because as always life is too short,shit she is living proof as well as others we so deeply have loved and lost before there time...Thank you for everything and the love and support we have gotten over the years...Family first Love Us

 

Below is my mom's story.

My Journey......Last Year.....Now.....Till Then
I would like to share a story with all of you....June of 2018 was I was diagnosed with Stage 3 Lung Cancer. I chose to be treated at Cape Cod Hospital with radiation and chemotherapy in August 2018....This was a hard time for me as well as my family. These choices have change my life as well as my families. In October 2018 I was not feeling good I started to feel the reproductions of these treatments. Sick, nauseous, hair loss, gout, and severe headaches. I went to hospital and along with more tests, discovered I had metastatic cancer in the brain. This meant the cancer from my lungs spread to my brain. Having feared I was going to go out stupid....I decided to pursue treatment with the best place i could get treatment, Dana-Farber Institute of Cancer. With a team of doctors, and nurses, as well as oncologists we decided to have localized radiation to the lesions that were in my brain, this happened in November 2018. Throughout the weeks following the radiation to the brain I developed tremors, that turned into localized seizures of the right arm. I started with one....after another.....ones that lasted longer.....longer......and finally one that became crippling, I had a seizure that lasted two and a half hours long. This seizure completely disabled me, I had no use or mobility of my right arm which was a huge blow since I am a right handed. I became weaker and weaker over the time as well as became more exhausted than I have ever been. This was March of 2019, I ended up in Spaulding Rehabilitation. This trip landed me with gout, going on steroids, this made me a diabetic requiring insulin, sugar checks multiple times a day. I finally became strong enough with help with medical devices to use to help strengthen my arm and my walking. I was able to return home, however was still weak and now having to rely on anyone near me as well as my husband and children become my care givers. This was not an easy task for me as well as them since I have always been the care taker for years. I had to rely on someone to get me up, dressed, fed, cleaned, wash, toileted, walk, as well anything I enjoyed to do. This was frustrating for me since I has to be on the sidelines and watch, this is not like me. I started to have more falls over time, as well as more frequent seizures, severe headaches while on chemo medicine hoping for the best. Recently I have been to Dana Farber and found out that I had more lesions on my brain and they suggested full brain radiation. Tell me that's not a blow, they do localized radiation I loose mobility as well as have seizures in the right arm. Sooo... what do full brain radiation, and risk becoming a vegetable....NO THANKS!!!! I have made my mind up years ago I don't wanna be in pain or suffer, and I always knew I would do Hospice to be comfortable. Today I would like to explain to you all I have decided....I'm tired of being in cronic pain, I can't walk, feed myself normal I have had to adapt to become a left handed everything. I recently became sick with a UTI and was not eating, drinking, or barely talking just sleeping. Jen came to pick me up and drove me as I slept the whole ride to Addison Gilbert Hospital, in Gloucester, Ma. I am sorry to say this decision maybe was a stretch however I have been waited on hand and foot, this staff of Doctors, Nurses, Aides, Physical Therapists, Social Workers, Case Managers, Dietary Staff, and Housekeeping have truly been amazing. If some of you are unaware I am unable yo walk, stand, sit, or lay without being pain free. I am currently working with the team of staff to get a hold of my pain management. I have decided to choice hospice and I will go into a facility until they can no longer maintain my pain management. I have chosen this way to free of pain, safe, and cared for around the clock care for myself. Hope that you would learn to accept End of Life Decision, and these are mine.

It's been a tough road and I want to ensure no one has a pity party for me. I'd rather have a Celebration of life with my family and friends!
This has happened so quickly and did not have time to save up for all these expenses after I pass.

I would like to say I love all of you
Love Beth
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Beth Thebearge 
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Peabody, MA