Barnett Family Memorial Fundraiser
Mental illness stole a courteous friend, endearing father, and top-shelf chef from our family this week.
When Rhys was well, he was pure joy. He had a deep voice and a rolling laugh that made conversations with him addicting. Years of hosting private tours down the Grand Canyon River planted his heart there. He often told stories of the crazy adventures he had, many ending with his amazing laugh.
He loved to tell the most horrendous dad jokes. He'd call and talk to you as if it were a serious conversation, just to give you a punch line and hang up. He was the first person to offer help, before you even knew you needed it, and the last person to leave if he was needed. You’ll rarely meet someone so thoughtful and centered around helping others.
He loved to bring people together with food and was constantly trying to outdo his last masterpiece. The only thing bigger than his brisket was his heart. He was there for us, even when he couldn't be there for himself. Towards the end, we started to see less and less of his true self, yet we are so grateful for every memory and the pieces of joy he gave, even with his health leaving him.
He left behind two children. William 9 and EvaLynn 6. The statistics for children of parental suicide are disturbing. Their responses have been withdrawn and we’re dedicated to preventing the slow disappearance we watched happen to their father. After thoughtful recommendation, the kids will go to The Sharing Place, a Utah nonprofit for grieving families. It’s painful to know so many families have been through this, but their support is so meaningful and the reassurance in knowing we’re not alone is restoring.
Rhys fought with mental illness and addiction for years and didn’t have a steady income during that time. We’re committed to getting the children the expert help they need after losing their father. Mom has supported the family alone for years. The extra expenses are more than she can handle alone and nothing we want to add to her grief.
Rhys: Dragonborn, Handsome Dancer, the only and best drummer we knew; your facial symmetry and Traeger expertise were first-class. We know you were suffering but will work hard to concrete everything wonderful about your memory. Rest in painless peace knowing we’ll take care of the angels you’ve left on earth.
To contribute to the family's therapy and funeral expenses, donate here, or send funds directly to Jessica at her Venmo @BarnettJess