Help me help my father

Hello and thank you for stopping by my gofundme page. I created this page because I need your help. I am asking for financial assistance from friends, family and angels by donating to help support me in my effort to help my father recover after suffering from a severe traumatic brain injury in July of 2022.

I left behind my house in Los Angeles and my business as of January 1 2023 to be by my father's side. I have learned much over the last 9 months. I have spent the last 4 months driving daily to be by Roberts's side and I have learned that I must be here in Delaware to be an advocate for Robert otherwise Robert would not receive the necessary care that he deserves from the “professionals” who are tasked with caring for him. As a result, I can not work. I’ve gone through any money that I had set aside and now I find myself in dire straights.

The state oversees Robert’s assets and care by allowing me to be Roberts's Guardian but there are many rules with this title. Robert never set up a power of attorney and so Guardianship is the next best thing but it is heavily monitored. It’s a sensible thing for the state to protect someone who can not decide things for themselves but with Guardianship any money Robert has must be spent solely on Robert and his assets. As for the caregiver, in this case, I am not protected or assisted under Guardianship law. While I may know that my father would not want to see me struggle, he has no way to articulate that because of his injuries.

Medicare benefits for Robert to stay in a facility have expired and monthly fees from the facility are now out of Roberts's pocket. This is incredibly expensive and moreover, the facility is not suitable for a person who has a severe traumatic brain injury. There have been problems with the facility over-advertising and under-delivering and we have been looking for the next step. The most important thing is providing Robert with a quiet place for him to recover and gain strength. The facility is cost prohibitive and so I will take Robert home to his house in Rehoboth. I will assume the role of full-time caregiver, currently the facility prevents me from assuming that role and as such I can request from the state to be compensated to cover my basic needs. Compared to the facility fees, my basic costs are a pittance. Taking Robert home has another benefit which is that Medicare benefits reset. Services like physical therapy and daycare can be provided and covered. There is every reason to bring Robert home.

I take all of this on enthusiastically. I believe that I can help my father and moreover I want to. The sacrifices that my father made for me over the years have taught me what love looks like and for me, I will protect and care for him and see him recover to the fullest extent he can. For now, I have to ask for your help. I do wish it wasn’t this way but I ask for your donation to support me so that I can give my father my undivided attention. I’m not looking for anything outside of the essentials. What that means is the money you donate will go to help me cover my basic bills, pay off as many of my debts as I can and afford health insurance. I am going the way of my grandfather, Roberts's father, and my eyes are getting worse. I need to fly to Los Angeles and return with my van and tools. I need to pack up what I want to keep and possibly transport to Delaware but this takes a little time and I am trying to get this done before Robert is set to return. I hope to get Robert home by June 1st but much has to happen in May and it may be too much. July may be more realistic. So that is where we are at. If you have the means to assist I thank you from the bottom of my heart. And if you do not, thoughts and prayers help too! Either way, thank you and God bless.