We started this page to help our friend Alisha (29yo) fight her battle with cancer. Sadly her cancer has reached Stage 4. With a new born bringing the tally of kids to 7, our goal is to help ease the financial burden and help her live out her dreams.
Please read her story.
Her and her partner both came from broken relationships baring 3 kids each. Metin, a single dad with 3 girls and Alisha, a single mum with 2 boys and 1 girl. A friendship blossomed, they feel in love and eventually moved in together. They were our version of the Brady bunch. She suddenly became a mum of 6 kids under the age of 11.
After being together for 4 years they decided they wanted a child together. It’s crazy to think of having 7 kids, but that’s what they wanted. After countless attempts and months gone by, testing began and results indicated infertility. Heartbroken but they carried on.
After months of trying, she fell pregnant. It was a miracle and happy was an understatement.
But it wasn’t smooth sailing. There was complication after complication with the pregnancy and always fear that the baby wouldn’t make it. She became a priority at the hospital undergoing continuous monitoring. The pregnancy began to stabilise at around 26 weeks and she was now enjoying this precious moment. She was happy.
At this point Alisha noticed something unusual on her breast. This is where the horror story begins.
At 32 weeks pregnant she was diagnosed with aggressive stage 3 breast cancer. This was a shock to the system. Being pregnant you already have a surge of hormones taking over. It was terrifying for her, straight away she thought of the baby.
The delivery had to be moved forward because chemo had to start as soon as possible.
At 33 weeks Alisha had undergone a mastectomy with every precaution to keep the baby safe. She had 2 weeks to heal from that and then had to go back under the knife for a cesarean at 35 weeks for the birth of her boy. Chemo would begin 2-3 weeks after.
Beautiful baby Isaac was born on 8th February 2019. With the challenges of 6 kids, now 7. Raising a new born and trying to manage your health, you would think that would be enough.
Alisha has now been hit with more bad news. The cancer has become metastatic and spread to her liver. Basically it’s the end of the line and 90% of metastatic cancers end in death. Doctors don’t have definitive answers as to how long she has left but the goal now is to prolong her life with on going treatment. She may have 12 months or she may have 6 years. Either way her life has been cut short.
It’s all happened so quickly. In the space of 5 months she has been hit with hurdle after hurdle.
She’s written a list of things she wants to do, her bucket list. Now she doesnt know we have this.
Reading It broke my heart. It’s simple things that we take for granted. Things that most of us can do regularly or can easily book to do over the weekend. Simple talks, chats and lectures you give on the daily to your kids. She wants that.
Here is her list:
•Take the family on their first overseas trip (Fiji or Bali) •Have the opportunity to marry Metin in front of our kids •Swim with the big turtles •Compete in a figure competition •Learn to speak another language •Slow dance in the sunset after having a romantic dinner •Prepare and educate our children on all things in life, protect them, help them through all their problems from friends, to first heartbreaks to getting them ready for formals and high school graduations. •Take the kids horse riding. •Drive the great ocean road and visit the hot springs with Metin. •Take the kids to the Royal Easter Show for the first time
Unfortunately with 7 kids you’re limited financially. Holidays become too expensive, restaurants become expensive and groceries are never ending.
The other day we were in her lounge room and the kids were having a picnic dinner on the floor together. I watched her watching them. They ate and fought then cleaned up after themselves. I watched her heart break as she held back the tears. The kids don’t know. How do you tell them that you might not be alive for Christmas. How do you tell your babies that you can’t watch them grow up. How do you hold onto your new born baby knowing that you may not be here on his first birthday.
I want to give her what I can, help her achieve this list. Her partner is trying his hardest to work and juggle taking Alisha to chemo and looking after the kids.
So I’m asking for your help. Help to help my friend. To make the most of the time she has left with her kids. I want her to feel ok to say that if I’m gone I know that I have given them my best and created special memories for them.
Because at the end of the day, that’s all we are left with. Just a memory of that person. So please help me create these memories.