Andy Day’s funeral arrangements

Hello, My name is Danielle.

 

11 months ago my step Dad, Andy received the worst news possible. Bladder cancer. My step Dad is a Marine vet. The kindest, most humble man who devoted his entire life to Jesus Christ and caring for my ill Mother. He went from no symptoms and physically healthy, to being bed ridden and in constant pain. He underwent surgery where they removed his bladder and his doctor told him that the cancer had spread outside of his bladder and it didn’t look good. It was stage 3. Chemotherapy started and did nothing but make him physically and mentally weaker. As the months went on, he only got worse. He went on hospice because at this point it was stage 4 and their was nothing left to do but wait on a miracle that only God could provide. My step Dad never lost his faith. He wasn’t angry. He never complained. He knew if this was Gods plan for him, then he would accept it, and he did. He was the one caring for my Mother daily before his cancer diagnosis. Now she, with the help of the hospice nurses, did everything they could for him at home to make him comfortable and surrounded him with love. He was strictly only able to digest on a liquid diet. He went from being able to stand with the help of a walker, to not being able to stand at all. Thursday, August 26th, he was bleeding very heavily and was rushed to the hospital. That is when doctors told my mom he had anywhere from two hours to two days to live. This news was devastating for all of us. They went home in shock. My mom made the hard phone calls, informing close family and friends of the news. Family flew in to be with them. My Mom gathered as many people as she could for prayer. By that Sunday, my step dad had gone into comatose. We thought this was it, he wasn’t returning from this state. We were right except it wasn’t as fast as we assumed. Over the next few days, he continued to breathe but did not open his eyes, verbalize any words, eat or drink. My brother and I arrived day six of him being in a Comatose state. I could not believe how bad it was. I’ve heard of cancer being the most awful thing a human being can go through. I’ve been on the phone with my Mom, listening to her cry and explaining to me how bad it was. How sick my step Dad was and getting worse but until I seen it in person, I didn’t truly understand. My heart broke. Not only at the site of seeing my step Dad laying in bed, pretty much lifeless, but my poor Mother and what she must be feeling and having to see on a daily basis. Her husband suffering so greatly and their being nothing his doctor can do. Nothing she or the in home nurses could do. My mother was exhausted. Emotionally and physically. She is very sick herself and can hardly get up and out of bed but she stayed by his side every min of the day just to make sure her husband was still breathing. I know how sick my mom is and I know the daily struggles she has endured since being diagnosed with Lyme and I know the only and I mean only reason she was able to be strong for my step Dad was because of God. Leaning on him and her faith, every step of the way. The day after my brother and I arrived to be with my Mother durning this difficult time, my step Dad took his last breath on Friday, September 3rd. I thank God I was able to make it to Oregon from California to say goodbye to a truly amazing, Godly man. As heartbroken as we all are, we know he isn’t suffering. He is with Jesus. That is what gives us all peace.

 

The reason I am making this go fund me account, is for my mother. Just as her husband was dying, she received news that her house was being sold. The homeowner wants to sell the house and my mom has only a couple of months to figure out a plan. Not only does she have to focus on funeral arrangements, but now everything is on her as far as bills and a new place to live. We are doing all that we can, as much as we can and if you can help, that would be a blessing to our family. I don’t want her to worry about anything right now. I just want her to grieve this significant loss in time and in peace. I don’t know what the future holds but right now all she is worried about is funeral arrangements and being able to pay rent and bills until she has to move. She is in Oregon all alone. All of our family is in California. Anything will help. Even if it’s just prayers. Thank you for taking the time to read this. God bless. I will add photos of Andy soon. Thank you again. 

 

Thank you, Andy.

For your love and for your service.

You will never be forgotten.

We love you. ♥️