Amanda's Cremation and Memorial Services

My name is Stephanie Harvey. My 26 year old daughter Amanda Perry passed away November 16, 2022. On November 11, 2022 I got a call in the middle of the night saying I needed to get to where my daughter was because there had been an accident. When I get there the ambulance is there doing CPR on her. They told me they finally got a faint heartbeat and to meet them at the hospital. When I get to the hospital emergency room, they say I had to wait for her to be admitted into the ICU. I asked them for what and they said because they don't know how long before they got there that she was not breathing. But they were trying to do CPR to get a heartbeat before coming to the hospital for at least 45 minutes. Also while on the way she stopped breathing again and it took them another 10 minutes to get her back again. So the total time she was not breathing and didn't have a heartbeat, so no blood or oxygen to her brain, was almost an hour that they know of but don't know how long she was unconscious before she was found and then the ambulance called. So she developed severe swelling on the brain and was on complete life support. For the next day they continued with the life support but slowly stopped any sedation meds so we can see if she would wake up, which she should have done already. They did a CT scan to see how much brain trauma she may have. It showed that there was severe trauma to her brain, meaning she had extensive brain damage. That could also be why she wasn't waking up. After stopping sedation meds they waited 24 hours for them to wear off to see if that was why she wasn't waking up, with no luck. By the next day her organs started to shut down. So we had to decide if we wanted her to live like this, on the ventilator breathing for her and unconcious with IVs and heart monitor. I don't think you should ever have to bury your children. But I also think that living like that is no quality of life and would not want to live like that. Amanda said the same thing before when we talked about if we were ever in a bad accident or something and we're going to live like a vegetable, then if we loved the other then we would just pull the plug. If she was able to wake up and learn how to walk, talk, and everything else then that would be great. I would spend the rest of my life changing her diaper, cleaning her up, and feeding her if I had to. But she was never going to wake up and then her organs were trying to shut down on top of that. I didn't want her to be in any pain from that. They did another test on her called a brain death test and confirmed that she was almost 100% brain dead. What we seen was going to be her quality of life. So we had to decide when to let her go. On wed November 16, 2022 at 12:01pm she was pronounced dead. I would like to get help for cremation services and celebration of life services. She will at least help possibly a handful or two of people live since she was an organ donor. Hopefully I get to meet one of her recipients one day.