Just updated the amount. He was laid to rest. The only expense now is a grave marker that has to be made.
I'm Adrienne Rose Alfaro (maiden name Guadarrama). I'm setting up this account for funeral expenses for my most Beloved Husband, Jose Carlos Alfaro.
Jose was born November 6, 1982. He was a hard worker and always full of determination. He held his family close to his heart and had a love for animals. He is especially known for his amazing sense of humor and goofy side, earning the nicknames "The Great One," and "Goofy." He even managed to have my parents laughing from his jokes about my flagulence, mistaken for drive-bys. With sound effects included of course.
He was fond of classic horror movies, which served as the purpose he and I first met.
We met in October of 2013 and became great friends. He always had me laughing and even crying laughing. Soon after, our friendship blossomed into a romantic relationship and we both fell deeply in love. Just after 1 year, we got married on November 14, 2014 in Fullerton at the county recorder. He showed me what true, unconditional love is, the "agape" love I'm accustomed to from our Father in Heaven. Every choice he made, he did with considering me. No matter how small or miniscule somethings seemed or how grand they were, he had the purest intentions.
He showed me inner strengths I never knew I had within me. Just 2 months after getting married and living in bliss, we found out he had kidney disease, secondary to diabetes type 2. We were told that there was absolutely nothing we could do to reverse or cure the damage that had been done, and that the prognosis was poor. The only option was a kidney transplant and dialysis. It took a big hit on us, but his attitude was always positive, vowing to fight this off. From then, we knew his time was limited and cherished every moment shared together. We made a promise to each other to find each other again in the next life.
He told me every single day, multiple times a day, just how much he loves me and how I'm his world "mi amor, mi mundo, mi corazon." He knew how to comfort me when I was down, and have me crying from jokes, instead of sadness. He supported me in every aspect of life. He pushed me to follow my life goals and began working 2 jobs while I went to respiratory school in 2017. Life was yet to test our strength again. Halfway through school we suffered through a miscarriage and just 1 month after that, he started losing his eyesight and stopped working. We relied on my part time job at Baker's, while still being a full time student, and on family members for financial support. Despite multiple eye surgeries, he completely lost his eyesight. It was difficult but we kept each other strong. Our love prevails, and continues to prevail.
After I finished Respiratory Therapy School in 2018, he underwent surgery for peritoneal dialysis catheter placement. I was trained on his care and I soon started dialysis at home for him every night.
He never lost hope. He often told me he's doing all this fighting for me and his family, his mom Leonor, his only loving sister Maria, and our neices Angie and Jenny and all those dear to him. He would keep going no matter how badly he felt, and had many pains almost constantly. But he kept going, there's that amazing unrattled determination.
He started going to the Lighthouse for the Blind, where he met a very dear friend, Victor. They became well known for their loud humor and often got into little chats with staff there. These two cracked jokes on a daily basis.
June 13, 2020 we happily got married within the Catholic Church. We both knew the value of Holy Matrimony and were married by Father Edmund Gomez, my cousin, at Our Lady of Guadalupe Catholic Church in Chino. It was very special to recommit to each other in the house of God.
Life again threw us more hardship. Although his diabetes was under control and he remained on top of his medications, he was hospitalized multiple times for anemia at Kaiser Fontana. At least 4 times, doctors told us he was extremely lucky to be alive, let alone conscious. In January 2021 he spent my birthday in the hospital for anemia, needing more blood, and toe amputation due to stub, that progressed quickly to gangrene. Still, he remained in good spirits until the very end.
He slowly began recovering but his kidney disease had progressed to stage 5 renal failure and he began feeling more ill. We're blessed to have spent his 39th birthday just 2 weeks ago on November 6th, and our 7 year Wedding Anniversary exactly 1 week ago on November 14th 2021. He was truly an amazing soul and incredibly loving husband. I will always love you, mi amor. You're my everything, the love of my life, my heart and soul. We'll say hello again.
