In July of 2016 my husband and I decided to take my three nieces into our home because their parents (my brother and his girlfriend) were not able to properly care for them. They were ages 4, 7 & 11 at the time. I prayed every night that their parents would turn their life around and get their girls back, however that did not happen and 16 months later the girls have completely settled into their new life and are doing amazing, they are healthy, happy and excelling in school. It’s been a struggle to keep up with everything but we have been doing ok, then on November 6th I received the call I had been dreading, my brothers body was found, he died from an overdose. I was completely broken or so I thought until the following day I had to meet with a detective to find out details I never wanted to hear and then go to my elderly dad to tell him he lost his youngest son and then find the strength to tell my beautiful nieces their daddy had passed away. Watching these little girls process this news, trying to answer the questions they had, I was then completely broken. I am trying so hard to keep it together and help the girls heal all while we remember their daddy for who he really was. Yes he was an addict and yes he overdosed and yes he ultimately made the choices that lead him to the dark place he was in but he was so much more than that. He was a son, brother, uncle and father. He was a good hearted person who helped people when ever he could and he was loved by many. I choose to remember the amazing guy I knew before the drugs and the girls and I want to lay him to rest in the way he deserves. The girls need closure so they can heal and they need to be able to go visit daddy at his resting place so they can feel a little better about all of this.
For all of you that truly know me, you know I try hard to handle everything on my own and I really don’t like to ask for help so making the decision to ask for it in this difficult time was not easy for me, however I realize in this situation I can’t do it alone. We are already living paycheck to paycheck just to get by with our now large family and there is no way I can pay all our bills and lay my brother to rest. We would be so thankful for anything you can do to help even if it’s just to share this with your friends and family and pray for ours. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
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