I never thought I’d have to ask for help like this... but here goes...

I’ve had 25+ surgeries, lost over 3 litres of blood, and I’m still living with two holes in my bowel and two open non healing wounds.

After years of being dismissed, a private specialist has finally told me I need urgent surgery but the NHS waiting list is up to 2 years.

I don’t have that time.

I’m trying to raise £8,000 for private surgery, not just to survive, but to be the mum my son deserves.

If you can spare £1 or share this, it would mean everything

My Story

I have always been very open about my Endometriosis in hope that sharing would help others, advocate for all Endo girls and make other warriors feel less alone but these past few years I've been battling this journey silently.

My Endometriosis journey started back in 2008.

Since then, I have undergone 25+ surgeries, including the removal of multiple organs due to how severe the disease was. By 2018, I had already been through extensive surgery just to try and make IVF possible.

Against all odds, IVF worked! and in April of 2020 I was blessed with my son, Huxley

But everything since then has been a constant battle.

During my pregnancy, I was extremely unwell with ongoing infections and localised sepsis that couldn’t be fully treated or operated on because I was pregnant. After my C-section during the first c0vi4 lockdown, the infection spread into my surgical wound.

For two years, I fought to be heard and taken seriously, but I was ignored and dismissed despite MRI scans showing two holes in my bowel

Then in 2024, everything escalated.

The infection and inflammation had spread through my pelvis, pelvic floor, and into my bowel and my symptoms became horrendous.

Since August 2024, I have had four surgeries, 2 further MRI Scans and a CT Scan in just 16 months, and I still don't have a formal diagnosis.

After the first surgery in Aug 2024 I was sent home (day surgery)… and within 7 minutes of being home I began to haemorrhage.

I lost over 3 litres of blood.

I had to be rushed back to hospital and was resuscitated twice.

My haemoglobin dropped to 52. I couldn’t even lift my head off the pillow.

I was given 2 blood transfusions… and then discharged just hours later.

It took me three weeks just to stand without passing out.

But it didn’t end there.

Between September and December 2024, I suffered three further haemorrhages from the same non-healing wound.

I was taken back into surgery again in December 2024

Then again in May 2025.

Then again in November 2025.

And right now as I type this I am still living with:

Two holes in my bowel

Ongoing infection and localised sepsis

Two open, non-healing wounds

Daily, severe pain

And despite all of this… I have been told:

Not to contact the hospital unless I am “seriously ill”

That my pain is “in my head”

All while being prescribed morphine and undergoing repeated surgeries.

At the same time, I am raising Huxley who is non-verbal, autistic, and has learning disabilities and needs constant care and his Mummy to advocate for him!

And the hardest part of all of this is…

I can’t be the mum he deserves while living like this.

I have pushed through things no one should have to push through, because I have no choice.

But I can’t do this anymore.

On 17th March 2026, my mum and I went to see one of the UK’s leading colorectal specialists privately in London, the travelling absolutely killed me but I needed to do it, I need answers and I need to heal!

For the first time in years, I was listened to and validated. After reviewing everything, he said:

“How are you still standing?”

He told me my case is one of the most complex he has seen and that I should have been treated properly a long time ago. Most importantly, he told me:

I need a stoma (colostomy) as soon as possible.

He has added me to his NHS waiting list… but the wait is 18 months to 2 years.

I don’t have that time.

I have fought and fought with QA Hospital to be heard, I have begged and begged for them to do this stoma for over a year and it has been refused, and quite frankly I do not trust QA Hospital to carry out this surgery after nearly 7 years of being left with two holes in my bowel, repeated infections, and multiple failed surgeries and let's not even talk about the length of their waiting list..

Now here's where you come in...

I am trying to raise £8,000 to have this stoma surgery done privately with this specialist consultant and his Endometriosis trained colleague, who has said he could get me in within two weeks if I can raise the funds!

This surgery will not fix everything, but it will be the first step on a well thought of plan that he made for me, it will allow my bowel to heal, stop the constant infections, minimise my pain and my symptoms and give me a chance at recovery.

But more than anything…

It will give me the chance to be the mum my son deserves.

Right now, I am surviving.

I am pushing through pain, infection, exhaustion, every single day is a struggle, I am doing everything I can just to get through, keep my mindset positive and not let the pain win, but my son doesn’t just deserve a mum who is surviving.

He deserves a mum who can be present.

A mum who can play with him.

A mum who isn’t constantly in pain/bed bound.

A mum who can truly be there for him and advocate for him in the SEN world

And that is all I want.

I am only asking for £1 and I understand times are extremely hard, I would not be asking if I wasn’t absolutely desperate.

But if you can help in any way, even just by sharing, you would be helping to give me that chance.

To heal.

To live.

And to be the mum my little boy deserves

Thank you, truly, from the bottom of my heart