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For some the decision to adopt may be a long drawn out process of weighing the good VS the bad, endless pro and con lists, financial debates, and counseling sessions.
For us it was a simple decision, a quick decision, almost not a choice at all but something we felt was the next logical step for our family. Almost a calling; Some women have the drive to be pregnant, a sixth sense. It was the same for me ( and I think I'm safe to say Jason as well ), we just knew. We knew pregnancy was not an option that left really three options
1. Using a Surrogate
Neither of us remotely mentioned this idea; Maybe because we have Xavier. he is our biological son, he is 8, very spunky loves running and Karate, he has some serious only child syndrome tendencies sometimes, and is dying for a brother. We have explained to him at length that he will have no choice in the decision!
2. Doing Nothing
Like I mentioned earlier this was definitely not an option. All three of us wanted to grow our family; I had such a strong desire to have another child it hurt. Not just emotions, it physically hurt to think about not having another child. It makes my chest hurt when I think about Xavier growing up without a brother or sister. My body aches every time I see a pregnancy announcement on Facebook. And before you think that if you experience the same feeling of anger, guilt, sadness, and envy when you see these announcements that you are not a good person. I assure you it is ok. It is not because we are truly mad that casual acquaintance is pregnant you are feeling your own loss and fear. I personally have to relive every failed IUI attempt, countless ultrasounds, painful tests, blood work, hundreds of negative pregnancy tests, and the ultimate pain of losing a pregnancy. What you can't do is let these feeling fester. Talk to someone, anyone who will listen and not judge. maybe a spouse, mother, sister, Priest, a professional. Many agencies have trained professionals to talked to ( in my opinion I would not choose an agency that does not offer this to you). This leads us to our third option and the reason I am writing this blog.
3. ADOPTION
For us the decision was made in our hearts we had not really spoken the words out loud yet, we had to basically speak the works out loud as a family. And and one day we did and the decision was made mostly by Xavier. I turned to him one day in the back seat of the car and asked " What do you know about adoption?" In true form he asked "Why?" I said " I just want to know what you know and how you feel about it" I will never forget his answer to me " Its when a family has a baby they can't care for and another family takes care of them......Can we do that?" I asked him again how he would feel about having a brother or sister, he paused for a moment and asked me "Would they share my room?" I answered simply "No" and he said to me " I would like that very much" That was it, decision made.
http://cjxadoption.weebly.com/blog/the-decision
For us it was a simple decision, a quick decision, almost not a choice at all but something we felt was the next logical step for our family. Almost a calling; Some women have the drive to be pregnant, a sixth sense. It was the same for me ( and I think I'm safe to say Jason as well ), we just knew. We knew pregnancy was not an option that left really three options
1. Using a Surrogate
Neither of us remotely mentioned this idea; Maybe because we have Xavier. he is our biological son, he is 8, very spunky loves running and Karate, he has some serious only child syndrome tendencies sometimes, and is dying for a brother. We have explained to him at length that he will have no choice in the decision!
2. Doing Nothing
Like I mentioned earlier this was definitely not an option. All three of us wanted to grow our family; I had such a strong desire to have another child it hurt. Not just emotions, it physically hurt to think about not having another child. It makes my chest hurt when I think about Xavier growing up without a brother or sister. My body aches every time I see a pregnancy announcement on Facebook. And before you think that if you experience the same feeling of anger, guilt, sadness, and envy when you see these announcements that you are not a good person. I assure you it is ok. It is not because we are truly mad that casual acquaintance is pregnant you are feeling your own loss and fear. I personally have to relive every failed IUI attempt, countless ultrasounds, painful tests, blood work, hundreds of negative pregnancy tests, and the ultimate pain of losing a pregnancy. What you can't do is let these feeling fester. Talk to someone, anyone who will listen and not judge. maybe a spouse, mother, sister, Priest, a professional. Many agencies have trained professionals to talked to ( in my opinion I would not choose an agency that does not offer this to you). This leads us to our third option and the reason I am writing this blog.
3. ADOPTION
For us the decision was made in our hearts we had not really spoken the words out loud yet, we had to basically speak the works out loud as a family. And and one day we did and the decision was made mostly by Xavier. I turned to him one day in the back seat of the car and asked " What do you know about adoption?" In true form he asked "Why?" I said " I just want to know what you know and how you feel about it" I will never forget his answer to me " Its when a family has a baby they can't care for and another family takes care of them......Can we do that?" I asked him again how he would feel about having a brother or sister, he paused for a moment and asked me "Would they share my room?" I answered simply "No" and he said to me " I would like that very much" That was it, decision made.
http://cjxadoption.weebly.com/blog/the-decision
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Christina West
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Coraopolis, PA