The Doctor took me for a walk down the quiet hall of the hospital. A hospital I had walked the halls of many times before for many other people. But this time was different, this time I was walking the hall of the hospital for me.
He opened a door into a consult room. I had been here before, I had been in this room a few years earlier. Back then it was not a consult room but a room for patients and this particular room was the room my father had died in.
“We have been looking at your gallbladder and preparing to remove it because of the large stones you have. However we are not going to do that anymore, you have much bigger things to take care of right now.”
“You have Stage 4 Pancreatic Cancer”
Although the words were probably some of the most ground-shaking ones I had ever heard directed at me I felt calm, I felt like I was being well taken care of, and I felt ready to take action. I had prepared for this, I had helped others in life-altering situations all my life, I have been throwing myself into knowledge on how to take action in these situations for a very long time now.
And here I am, putting it all to the test.
“Inoperable and Incurable”
I have too much to live for.
This is the beginning of my mother’s journey with Pancreatic Cancer. She is 49 years wise and in late June of this year, she received her diagnosis. Like most others her age with pancreatic cancer, she was misdiagnosed multiple times before finding the true cause of the symptoms she was experiencing.
Pancreatic cancer is quiet, it’s like it creeps up on you in the middle of the night and dumps a cold bucket of water on your head and screams “surprise!” and then just like that you have to remake your entire bed, your whole life, and learn how to sleep soundly again, live in a new way.
It doesn't allow for you to have much time to adapt, to try and get ahead of it, or to stop it. It forces you to act quickly, full of intent and purpose.
And that’s exactly what my mother and her support system are trying to do.
But you can google the signs and symptoms of Pancreatic Cancer anytime, right now why don’t I tell you more about who my mother is and what she desperately needs right now.
She is a mother of 6 children and has ensured that 21 children have had a safe and loving environment by which they could carry with them for the rest of their lives through fostering and adoption. She plans to continue to have a positive presence in the lives of any child that requires it like she always has. She has poured her heart and soul into children in need for the majority of her life. She has 3 grandchildren and I’m sure more on the way that need her.
My mother has an incredible husband, David, of over 30 years who has worked hard to support them through all the waves of life and continues to do so. He has always worked tirelessly for his family and now more than ever puts every ounce of energy and time he has into supporting the love of his life.
“My life is too beautiful for this to be incurable.” ~ Angela Bodzasy
My mother lives 1 hour outside of Kingston, the town she needs to go to for ALL of her treatments. She has been relying on family and friends to help with the driving for her many treatments not to mention her husband who of course takes her to as many as he possibly can.
David runs his own business and is the sole worker for it. Like most people in this world, when he cannot work, they do not make an income. Having to be in a position where you have to make the choice “Make money for the person I love, or spend time with the person I love” while having recently found out your loved one is facing a very dangerous adversary that could potentially take her away forever in the blink of an eye, it’s heartbreaking. It’s impossible. It’s devastatingly unfair.
“Her strong sense of calm always amazes me! Wanting to help others and provide a loving, safe home for children made Angie the perfect foster parent. Family is the most important thing in her life. She wears many hats and she wears them well……wife, mother, foster mother, grandmother, daughter, daughter in law, sister, sister in law, aunt, niece.” ~Sister-in-law
David and Angela still have their 11-year-old daughter living at home that went through a massive surgery herself just one year ago. A child that still needs medication in order to live a happy and healthy life.
They need help.
Her individualized plan contains so much:
-Countless Mindfulness exercise
And the list goes on.
She is at a point in her life whereby she needs to be able to say “Yes” to any and everything she can do to help her get through this. She does not have the time to be held back due to a lack of funding for treatments that could potentially keep her with the people and in this world that she loves so dearly.
She needs your help now.
She wants to stay.
Pancreatic cancer is a tough customer, but she is full of ambition, thoughtfulness, caring, and love. She has been having the most amazing and wonderful life and she still is and she still wants to.
Come be a part of my mother's journey, be a part of the reason she can say “Yes”.
My siblings and I have made this Go-Fund-Me page with 2 main goals in mind:
#1. To give Angela all the treatment and support she needs when she needs it.
#2. In the difficult time ahead we want to know David can be there for Angela and not have to worry that he is their sole provider.
Our father has always been beyond strong, supportive, loving, protective, hilarious, thoughtful, and smart. And we need to do whatever we can to allow him to keep being that presence in our mother’s life now more than ever before.
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, from every piece of who I am for contributing in some way to make my mother’s journey the most positive one it could possibly be.
- wayne&Susan langille
- Nathan Talbott
- Maureen Vermilyea
- Shell Franks
- Kim Burns