Abigail Blakey

Hi, my name is Nik, I'm Abigails son.

I have 2 younger sisters.

My mum had been suffering abdominal pains since May 2024.

May 15th, she went to Scunthorpe hospital and was fobbed off and told that she had constipation and they sent her home with painkillers.

In June she went back to hospital complaining of pains again and the doctors diagnosed a cracked rib, without even examining her and changed her painkillers without even checking anything.

July 3rd she fell over at home and was admitted to hospital, overnight they ran tests and diagnosed her with advanced bowel cancer that had spread to her liver and lungs.

Her words to my sister were 'I've got cancer? Am I going to die?'

July 4th I was told of the diagnosis whilst at work and went straight to the hospital with my partner arriving at 4pm.

Mum could barely talk other than to ask for a drink.

We stayed all night, slept on the floor of the hospital room for a few hours, and tended to my mum when needed.

July 5th she had basically turned into a zombie due to the pain relief they were giving her, she was unresponsive and just groaned occasionally, at 1pm we moved her to a hospice after being advised to do so and at 14:50 she passed away whilst we held her hand.

It happened so fast that we never had time to prepare anything, make memories, take photos or even really say goodbye.

The hospital neglected and failed her, they may or may not have been able to do anything but we'll never know for sure, what we do know is, had they done their job, we would of least had a little time with her.

July 9th we had an appointment at a funeral directors, to be asked lots of questions that we'd never even thought about before and then told the funeral would be almost £5000.

It's a sad time when you're too poor to die.

We've since opted for non attendance cremation as its the cheapest option but thats still £2000.

She didnt have a lot and no will was ever made and nobody I know, especially us, has that kind of money, so I'm asking for help from the kind people out there to try and help me lay my mum to rest.

I can't even book a date to have a funeral because I don't have the deposit and 14 days later they want the bill settled.

Please help me, I don't know how I'd ever say thankyou or repay anyone that helps, but I'd be forever grateful.

Thankyou for reading.