I am a 51-year-old cook. I have finally got a chance with the love of my life. I have known her for 14 years, been a friend, a lover, a person who is there for her no matter what. She is complicated (no... not like Facebook) and has had several non-meaningful relationships since I met her. She is extremely guarded. She doesn't let herself be in a position to be hurt, so caring about me is a drawback. She could lose me, get hurt by me (although that will never happen). I love this woman more than I have ever loved anyone but my son, including my ex-wife.

I want to ask her to marry me but I am not financially able to afford the ring and ceremony I want. I am not looking to have an Elon Musk wedding or anything. Not looking to buy a $100,000 ring. But I want to give her a proposal and wedding fitting of my love for her. I have always managed to pick women who have a hard time loving (that is polite and understated). I want to show this woman she is loved like she has never been loved. I want to spoil her and take her breath away.

I feel very weird doing this. I have never received unemployment even though I have paid into it most of my life. I don't like asking for help. But I want this to be special. Help me give this perfect, smart, amazing, beautiful woman a fairy tale. Please.