I'm raising funds for my 13-year-old son, Mose, and for the legal and expert costs involved in fighting for ADHD medical decision-making so he can have a real chance at getting the care he needs. Mose was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021. I share custody of him 50% of the time with my ex-wife, and this has turned into a long court battle over whether he can receive ADHD medication.

I first went to Kaiser in 2022 to get Mose a therapist because I was deeply concerned about his low self-esteem. Kaiser told me they would recommend treating his ADHD with medication before getting him a therapist. Because his mother opposed medication, I was told both parents would need to agree unless I had a different custody arrangement. I went to court to try to change custody and get medical authority for this issue, but the court said it was too soon to decide. I was told to return if Mose's grades did not improve, if his self-esteem stayed the same or got worse, or if he was not meeting his IEP goals.

All of that happened. I returned to court in 2024, but because I represented myself and filed the wrong paperwork, the case was thrown out. Last year, Mose's self-esteem became so serious that he was suicidal. Now, in 2026, I am working with a lawyer to continue this case because I cannot let this keep slipping through the cracks while my son struggles.

Throughout all of this, I have been the parent consistently paying for Mose's therapy and providing a tutor for him. I have also consistently supported him at school and socially with an eye toward helping him develop his capabilities. Co-parenting around his care has been difficult and stressful, with conflict in court and ongoing disagreements about treatment. I do not want to attack Mose's mother, but I do want to be honest that this has made it much harder to give him clear, consistent support.

Day to day, Mose is facing the impacts of ADHD in ways that are affecting both school and social life. He is about three years behind his peers academically and socially. He is in 8th grade, and instead of having the tools to manage what he is dealing with, he has started hiding his difficulties or lying about what is happening and what he can do. Mose wishes to use the medication, and I want him to have the opportunity to possibly overcome his ADHD and experience what that may be like without being hampered by the symptoms of ADHD.

Funds will go toward:

• Lawyer fees for the ongoing custody and medical decision-making case
• Neuropsychology specialists who can testify in court

If you are able to help, any donation or share would mean so much to me and to Mose. This fundraiser is about giving my son a fair chance to access care and move forward with the support he needs.