So, my birthday is coming up and Facebook has started doing its thing – asking if I want to ask for donations to a non-profit in honor of my birthday. And I think that’s a wonderful thing. I really do. But I decided I want to do something just a little different.
I know someone who could really use something that would brighten (and help) their life, and I want to see if you would consider helping me make it happen.I want to get my ex-husband a car.
Now, I know that’s a strange statement. And it might even seem a little superficial. But let me explain.
My ex-husband, the father of my children, has a condition called Becker muscular dystrophy
. One day (probably very soon) Kevin will be confined to a wheelchair for the rest of his life. He is defying the odds at the moment and is still able to walk very short distances, but because of the weakened muscles in his legs and now his upper body, he falls regularly. And when he falls, he is unable to get up on his own. This has, understandably, limited his ability to go places on his own. He can still drive – that’s not a problem yet. But his biggest problem is getting in and out of the vehicle without assistance. And since he doesn’t always have that assistance – and, thankfully, it’s not medically necessary just yet – he ends up just staying home a lot to avoid the trouble.
And that makes me sad.We’ve talked about what could help him and the only thing he’s ever mentioned is wishing that he could own a vehicle that’s the “right height.”
Think about that. How often do you consider the “height” of your car? If you’re like me, the answer is never. But Kevin has to think about that constantly. He has to live his life according to whether he can get himself in and out of a vehicle. And the car he has right now just isn’t cutting it. It’s a regular size car, low to the ground, and he is getting increasingly unable to go places in it.
Now, if I were independently wealthy, I would love to just buy him a car that would meet his needs. But I’m not. And, living on minimal disability to get by, neither is he. So I’m asking for your help. For these last months (optimistically speaking, possibly a year or more?), I would like to see the father of my children able to still go out and do things without worrying about something as simple as whether or not he can get in and out of the car. He is not to the point where he needs a handicap accessible vehicle – though that time will come. For now, he just needs one at the right height. One that he can easily slide in and out of that is not too low to the ground.
We’re not asking for a brand-new vehicle. Just something that works. Something that will make just one aspect of his life a bit easier.
Will you help? Any small amount will do. If I can do anything to ease just one small burden of the man who loves my kids as much as I do, it would be my honor. Please join me in helping Kevin maneuver through his last days of mobility.
Thank you for considering my request.