Family in Crisis

It all started when I noticed a slight slur in my speech. Just a small one, I thought it was no big deal so I moved on. That was in summer of 2010. I went to the hospital for what I thought was a routine MRI, instead I was told I had a brain aneurysm close to my spinal cord caused by an AVM (arterial veinous malformation). I had an operation and had a hemorrhagic stroke (bleeding) on the table. I believe it to be a doctor error. I was in a COMA for 8 weeks! When I came out of the coma it was like waking up in a nightmare. I couldn't move or speak. It has been over 6years now, I cannot walk, I am in a wheelchair, I need to be fed intravenously through feeding tube, I have 2 hearing aids, and my eyesight was badly affected having lost sight in one eye. My speech is unintelligible, my bronchial health is compromised I have to use a suction machine daily to manage a large amount of mucus in my lungs. This is sooo hard to deal with, we try to stay positive and have patience and we keep trying to get better, it’s a long long road and if you don’t think your comfortable life can change in an instant, think again!
It was a hot summer day and I could hear the sounds of children playing in the distance. Little did I know it would be one of the last times I would hear that sound.
I had a great job for a medical supply company, I would deliver medicine to patients in their homes who were suffering from cancer and various other ailments, I interviewed, got the job and turned out to be the best job I had ever had. I would drive 300 miles a day and I didn’t care, they paid good money, I thought my boss was great and I had a new car. Based on this fresh infusion of money I decided to get myself a new car. I wanted something nice to drive the miles in and get better gas milage. I went to Toyota with a great credit score and walked out with a new car. I loved that job and I felt great!… MAN that was a good day! When I was in a coma it was repossessed.

I had it all, a beautiful wife and 3 boys. This was our very own Brady Bunch or at least our version of one. I think it was more like the Addams Family. All we wanted was a quiet peaceful life wth our three teenage boys and all we got was grief.
We were taking care of my mom she had early stage dementia. I promised my dad before he passed I would. not put her in a home and I took care of mom diligently. She passed 4 years ago while I was in intensive care. I didnt get to say goodbye.
She lived right down the street in the home I grew up in. We eventually moved to that house and are still there to this day. Those day’s were magic. Seems like a long time ago now.…I have been ill for over 5 years now, My wife is from Glasgow, Scotland and is loving, kind, hardworking and practical, I fell in love the moment I saw her. I can’t say enough about having loving support in a situation like this. I could write a novel about our love. She has been amazing, to give up her life to care for me is truly a miracle. I need to take care of her. We both hate asking for help but this is our only hope. I can't work or drive. As you can see I'm very articulate in my mind and use the computer quite well, I've been trying to find a job I can do from home but have had no luck. I want to pay off my home so our bills won't be so high everything is piling up and we are terrified we are going to lose our home Those of you that read this may you find peace and commitment in your life and remember there is a God to talk to.... Thank you for your Generosity, Brad

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