Help Robbie’s daughter to manage his death & save his cat.

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Hey everyone, Abbey here. This is my first time ever making something like this. Asking for help has never been a strong point of mine, but I am really in need of it. I will do my best to be transparent as possible about the whole situation.

My biological dad (Rob H.) unexpectedly passed away yesterday (January 16, 2025) at OSHU in Portland, Oregon. I received the call at about 12:30 pm from a case worker who first told me that they had rushed him into operating after he was found unresponsive in a commons area of his building he lived in, and he was being intubated. 6 minutes later I had a follow up call from a doctor telling me they did everything they could for him but lost him. I was told that his death appeared natural, and that he had been very sick for a while. They are doing a full assessment at the medical examiner, and I wont know the full reason for his death for another week or so. I have heard murmurs from his friends that he was suffering from esophageal cancer and did not want to worry me.

Despite not actually knowing my dad for most of my life, over the last 2 years Rob and I had been slowly mending our relationship. We had become incredibly close over these two years, talking every day on the phone. Once in the morning, once in the evening. He was very proud of his sobriety for the last couple of years, and he was really doing the best at making it work for himself. He was active in the local community of recovery, opening the Alano Club every morning at 5:30 am to make coffee for the eye opener meetings. He would text every time he was on his way to get the meetings ready, and I always knew it was him when my phone lit up in the dark of the morning.

He had adopted a boy cat named Kafka, after being inspired by my small farm of animals. We were getting to know each other for the first time. He knew all of my animals names by heart and knew their photos like they were his own. He never forgot to remind me how much he loved me every single time we spoke, and how thankful he was that we were in touch again. It was nice.

I spoke to him at noon the day before he passed away. His last words to me were thanking me for helping him with a phone issue, and his regular "I love you." My heart is absolutely broken, and I am confused, sad, and bewildered by this untimely turn of events.

After so many years of him not being active in my life, I had prepared for this phone call so much earlier in my life....but I hadn't expected it to happen once we started to make up for the past. That's life, though.

Anyhow, I am here asking for help to cremate my dad, to transport his kitty a few states away either by ground transport or flight, and to send my fathers remains to me. I do not want to leave him in state custody in Portland where he has nobody else.

I will be having my father cremated as affordably as possible in Portland. I will have them send his ashes to me, and I will quickly line up transportation and adoption of his cat Kafka. (I may need to get him shots, a soft cat carrier, and sedation before he travels to me - depending on how he will be getting here.)

These costs should cover the process above, as well as shipment of any of his belongings that may want to be recuperated by family. I have tried to make a buffer to cover any remaining hidden costs in this nightmare of a week that might pop up as well.

Anything helps. 5 dollars, 20 dollars, even just a share. If you can't do any of that, please just send me some love. It means a lot. I feel not as strong as I usually tend to be, and this kind of help is hard to ask for.

If there is any money left over, I will put them towards getting his kitty settled into our home, and make a possible donation to a local animal rescue. Because that was what he would have asked me to do.

Thanks, y'all.