In desperate need of a blessing

This sounds familiar doesn't it? Noelle, in a desperate time?  Sadly, yes.  Below you'll see the story of before when I did this, and thank God I had people come to my rescue.  Well, yes, I'm in "trouble" again.  Why? I'm still behind on child support! Why? Because I've been unable to find a "living wage" job (even though the judge said I should have no problem finding such a thing... O.o )

I found a good job recently on Fort Lee, but shortly after I started ( & I'd quit my other job) my hours got cut down to 20 a week after we lost a huge contract (we didn't get the lowest bid this year).  I've been job hunting again since. You've probably seen my posts about it.  Well, my ex doesn't care & is taking me to court. Again.  This judge has a history of siding with the father, no matter what.  Example: I have a friend, same judge, who's ex owes her about $25,ooo in back owed child support & This judge has done NOTHING about it.  Me? I try.  I try. I try so hard.  I can not get one step ahead no matter what I do.  The judge would gladly throw me in jail for a year to "teach me a lesson."  What lesson? That it sucks to be poor? That sometimes no matter how hard you try, you can't get ahead? That the courts are bias?  I know all of those.  I have court in August (they had a short date!) and I'm desperately trying to find a loan, but we dont' have an "actual" bank account (it's through US Bank & a "rewards" card, which they consider a pre-paid) & my credit isn't good... part of which my ex helped to ruin by putting bills under my name & not paying them.
I hate begging. I'd rather be the one to do something for you... but I've prayed til I can't any more, I've cried til I feel I"m going to flood the house...I've applied for 337 jobs since April.  I have 2 interviews this week (7/13)


Many of you know my backstory.  How, a few years ago, many lies were spread & made about me, how my ex took me to court and won physical custody of my older two kids. (we have joint custody.) During that trial many many lies were told about me. The GAL (guardian Ad Litem, the one that's supposed to be "neutral" for the kids) lied, didn't ever once speak to my witnesses or do home studies as I asked her to. She would speak & chat with my ex & his people, but spoke to me once outside the courtroom and that was for me to not say anything until the end of the trial. Well, my being not very well off with money, couldn't afford a lawyer, and listened to her when I shouldn't have. 

Well, because of that, I was ordered to pay child support.  Many of you know the physical issue with my husband (fibromyalgia) that has prevented him from working for over a year now.  The job economy is far from its best right now as many of you know.  I've been struggling to keep a roof over our heads.  We are honestly behind on rent and a few utility bills as well.   My last understanding is, my ex doesn't  owe rent or utilities where he lives (some of you know where that is).  

Because I 've been trying to keep a roof over our heads, I've been unable to pay child support.  Well, my ex took me to court and I was able to get a court appointed lawyer.  This lawyer didn't council me, didn't return my calls (even when I went up to his office!) and the day of court came.  The lawyer was an hour and a half late, didn't know who I was, got the majority of my information wrong, threw me under the bus to the judge and then LEFT about 15 minutes before the case was over.   The judge threw a fit about me not paying, blamed my not having money on having two little kids (about the only thing I pay is for diapers. they live off hand-me-downs basically.) He told me I was lucky he didn't throw me in jail right then.  He gave me 3 weeks (til June 13th) to pay close to $1500 or I will have to go to jail for 6 months.    The fact he didn't pay me child support (when I had physical custody) for nearly 2 years meant nothing (he didn't get any punishment for that).  Him not owing bills didn't matter. Nothing mattered except I'm this awful monster in the eyes of the court.  They don't see that I'm there for my kids every other way possible.

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Noelle Quade 
Hopewell, VA
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