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This is still very much an active situation. Please consider donating, I am in critical need. I am recovering from discharge and am considering my general plan of action. Thank you. -DMN
Hello. Thank you for being here, and for acknowledging my fight. I am a 36 year old mother with a 6 year old daughter I have not seen in person since before her second birthday. The co-parenting situation is not didactic, and I am trying my best to create cohesion for my child and I.
I am still attempting to convince California to defend my rights and hers.
So far, the ball has landed in NY, with upstate refusing to contact family services on her behalf. I have attempted to move forward a new case in NY, but the specific county she is located in seems a particular haven, and it is not easy to file from California, even as a primary interested party with a case history.
I need to defend myself from the allegations the California departments have recently made against me, which resulted in another forced incarceration and a current detox period. For the record, I do practice the arts; I do not make a habit or practice of smearing blood all over my walls. Thank you Los Angles Department of Health, you really did not come through at all. A big shout out to that rep. for lying to LA General and my apartment complex, who I now also am due against in court.
I am also now classified as gravely disabled and am a complete burden on society. Can I have some money? I want to buy food.
Anyway. So far, the donations from this fundraiser have helped me do the following:
- provide myself with food and shelter after being forced out of the home Hazel was brought home to and that I had co-owned with the Lane trust in Santa Clara County. ✨
- retain critical insurances during periods of unemployment and recovery. ✨
- procure professional attire and supplies for school, interviews, and jobs I have taken during my recovery periods. ✨
- partially retain a family law professional to help settle my divorce case and make partial progress in the San Mateo case, which resulted in a move away order for Hazel to New York. ✨
- funded my participation in an online parenting class focused on gentle parenting, and on breaking the cycles of inter-generational violence in parenting. ✨
Because of the understated and generous support of my family, friends, and peers, I have been able to keep afloat, housed and well. Because of my most recent hospitalization, I am currently recovering several losses. My bank accounts were compromised and I am still detoxing from the drug trials Kaiser Permanente put me through at their Medial Campus South in Long Beach. LA General had no right to transfer me there, as I canceled my patient relations with them before I even moved out of the SFV.
In 2023, I was able to get a court ordered agreement that allowed my family and I to partially reunify with my daughter. That order is unfair and allows my ex husband to power trip without oversight. He currently is keeping all contact from me again, despite my explaining that I am recently recovering from a serious brain injury. He is forcing me through the outdated plan from San Mateo instead of getting an updated plan from his County or our child's therapist.
Unfortunately, the San Mateo Parenting Step Up Plan Order was made after I found out that my ex had petitioned to move across the country.
It's critical to note that the Santa Clara County FS reported on the conditions and the case in 2021 and found that I hadn't violated my duties as her mother. That was never brought up in San Mateo.
I also suffered a major hit and run accident the week of that move away trial, which left me severely physically and mentally impacted. I had head trauma, and there was a significant impact to my spine. CHP cleared the other driver after they checked his residence. He claimed he didn't remember the events of the evening. I had a passenger as witness. No justice from California.
I most recently was employed with Easterseals of Southern California, after working as a representative of Amnesty International. I am no longer able to meet my obligations, as I have been classified as gravely disabled.
Here is what I am trying to accomplish with this fundraiser, at this point.
- Support towards rent and food support. I do not and have not received any fiscal support from Chris. I lost the Prius in the settlement, and my bug in the accident. His 4/4 trust managed to take everything, including my dignity. A little cheese goes a long way these days. My studio costs almost 2k a month, and it is largely uninhabitable. Los Angeles, you know? What are you gonna do, go to court against every landlord you know? Well, it is the time of the season for heartless evictions. My partner has been supporting me by paying more than 50% rent for the time we've been over the hill in LA. The Valley was not much cheaper, and the air and water was much worse so, even though I'm strapped I'd really like to stay in my apartment and not a disability shelter or nursing facility. ✨
- Support towards my professional goals. Disabled gravely does not mean dead, and I have bills to pay. ✨
- Funding for more extensive therapy, such as EMDR and other modalities focused on cerebral healing. ✨
- Retention of new counsel to aid in the New York case, which is still unopened. I had lamplight legal through work, but that contract has been up since my leave started post incident. I currently have no legal counsel. ✨
I am still trying to recover my full parental rights.
I am still advocating for myself.
I will continue to rebuild my life.
Your support is very much appreciated, and will help me reach my goals that much faster. Regardless, they will be met, it's simply a matter of time, which, much like motherhood, is precious, fleeting, and unrelenting. This fight started with me destitute and too afraid of my family to ask for help. I'd like to remedy that by asking, today.
If you can afford to donate, please consider doing so.
If you have words or prayers of support, please share them.
Thank you for all that you have helped me accomplish.
love you.
-Davalena M Napolitano (mama)
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