.... A roller-coaster of a potential heart rending tragedy began.
Tobias one day got sick. It started with lower back pain, and after many scary weeks, culminated in kidney failure. Soon after a diagnosis of loculated lungs was given as well. Then he slipped into septic shock. While intubated and unconscious dying in the hospital, it was also discovered he had a heart valve failing. Originally surgery was to occur months and months later, after Tobias hopefully lived, healed, and regained the strength to endure such a traumatic procedure. However awakening one night in the hospital in the worst pain of his life, freshly extubated, he begged nurses to not let him die. The fear and pain gripping him was his body's recognition that his heart valve had fully failed. Emergency open heart surgery had to be performed.
There were several times his loved ones were told he likely wouldn't make it till morning.
His surgery was performed on a Tuesday in November.. . He came out of surgery with a balloon pump doing the work his heart should have been able to do by then.. .. For two days his blood was pumped with outside help till finally his heart managed to beat just strong enough to remove the artificial assistance.
Luckily, even with that hiccup, the surgery was a success, and his body started working on its own again... Slowly at first... Very slowly.. .
It still wasn't a sure thing, but he fought through and miraculously survived...
He was brought out of intense sedation, and found himself now a thin, sickly looking man. A man with a scattered brain and a broken body. A body that no longer worked. He had to start with learning everything again. How to roll over. How to feed himself. How to sit-up. How to walk. But good news was, his kidneys were beginning to work again, and talk of being put on a transplant list was taken off the table. He slowly improved, and finally managed to feed himself, and even be able to clumsily shower himself! But still had a long way to go...
Acute kidney failure is a permanent diagnosis that has to be watched closely. The risk of septic shock is a very real one, as 40% plus of those diagnosed with it have repeat occurrences and lose their lives to it.
Even so, Tobias continues to improve. He has been a fighter all the way and already surpassed several projected time lines of recovery, but still has a long way to go.
All along the way, support of Katie and the drive to love her and Star as much as they deserved were a constant motivation. Their daily visits were a slice of heaven in a bleak place...
After 95 days in the hospital, he was released. That thankful experience was also another blow waiting. During his long hospital stay, much had happened. All his possessions were gone, his house taken away, even their family vehicle was given away by those they trusted. He and his family barely had anything. Katie did not have the finances to save his entire worked for life. Now with him still 35 plus pounds of muscle under weight, and still with at least a year ahead of recuperation, and 6 months away from being physically able to work, even more bad news came: Not only was his house gone, but they had no home to stay in at all anymore.
They are about to be homeless. Tobias, Katie, and their little Star are now days away from having nowhere to go. They are reluctantly asking for help putting a roof over their family's head for the 6 months they need to build back up health and self-sufficiency.
Your donations, or even just love is greatly appreciated. Anything, even the smallest amount helps.
T. K. & S.
P.S. New reward levels will be added as we can.
- Karen Cox
- Adrienne Goff
- kay leigh
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