Help Cynthia stay home with family stage 4 cance

Hello I am 1 of Cynthia Wheeler's Daughter's who is trying to raise money to be able to keep caring for our mom at home. Our Mom is a mother of 6 and has over 20 grandchildren and great grandchildren. She was a nurse for over 40 years. She worked 3 Jobs and raised all of us alone. We never went without. She dedicated her life caring for others but now it's time she needs cared for. December 7th 2022 our mother was admitted to the hospital in Springfield Illinois with Influenza A , pneumonia, multiple pulmonary embolisms , Grade D Esophagitis and along with finding out mom has been diagnosed with Stage 4 Endometrial Cancer that has also spread into her abdominal area. Cindy was admitted December 7th 2022 -January 24th 2023. During this hospital stay she also acquired stage 3 bed sores covid 19 and c-diff. The family members who had been with her also caught covid 19 which meant non of us could visit her that whole week. On December 25th 2022 the doctors informed me that Mom had been deteriorating during the week everyone had covid and would need to be put on hospice. From that day we never left her side. She fought through every single one of the complications she endured during this stay. We took her home January 24th to start the fight for cancer treatment. Due to her esophagus closing up to 2 millimeters she was only able to eat liquid foods and High calorie Boost Drinks. She was unable to start Chemo due to low nutrition. Tuesday March 21st we took mom into surgery to have her esophagus stretched and a tube feeding placed so she could build up enough strength to start chemo. Friday March 24th we were called into hospital and were told by a surgeon that mom wasn't going to make it but 2 more days due to them believing she had ischemia bowel which was based off of just 2 lab test during a 4 hour period. This doctor literally tried to talk us into giving up even though our mom is in her right mind and said she will die fighting. We told this surgeon you heard what our mom said do whatever it takes she wants to fight. In less than 24 hours our moms lab results were completely back to normal without treatment. She was mis diagnosed. Again Tuesday March 31st a different ICU surgeon , palliative care nurse and a Ethics nurse all from the hospital called our family into an emergency meeting stating there was no treatment for mom and that we would need to put her on hospice even though mom was stating she isn't ready to give up they tried having us convince her there was no hope so sadly we all agreed to hospice. Literally 20 minutes later Mom's original surgeon comes in and was in complete shock mom was on hospice orders. When we asked what was going on the Surgeon stated there was nothing wrong with moms bowels and that she could resume feedings. So all hospice orders were canceled. To say that we made a decision based off of a ICU doctor who had no idea what was really going on with our mom is shocking. We can't believe the amount of neglect and wrongful information we have been through. We are raising trying to raise money to keep our mom at home to care for her. Moms only last wishes are to be home with her family and to hopefully be able to eat regular food before her time is up. We are running out of money and sick pay. My sister travels 3 to 4 times a week from Champaign and I have not been able to work my normal hours at the hospital. This has Mentally and Physically taken a toll on us. Right now bills are the last thing we need to worry about. We also pay out of pocket for all moms medical needs at home, dressing changes, pads, diapers and special calorie drinks for her along with helping make sure our younger brother is taken care of. Mom needs 24 hour care and only gets 20 hours a week paid for by insurance Any donations help
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  • martha watson
    • $20 
    • 10 mos
  • Michelle Paisley
    • $100 
    • 10 mos
  • Elizabeth Paisley
    • $200 
    • 10 mos
  • Michael Anderson
    • $100 
    • 10 mos
  • Jackie White
    • $100 
    • 11 mos
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Crystal Micheletta
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Springfield, IL

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