Help Me Stop My Abuser! #AbusiveLitigationIsReal

A friend of mine needs your help!!

Here is their story:

I can not reveal details about my case to keep myself from further legal attacks. I must not use specific details of my life, family or my abuser. So I will remain discrete. I do hope that people can understand why I can't share details.

When a person goes through a relationship with an abusive spouse it is something that never really leaves them. They will always carry around the memories of the abuse in every scenario everywhere they go. In relationships with family, friendships, relationships with colleagues, and in romantic relationships, it is always there in the back of their minds. It affects everything they do and every decision they make forever. It changes you! You never can fully trust and you are always waiting for the other shoe to drop. As if that is not hard enough, it keeps you looking over your shoulder forever. Wondering when they are going to pounce again.

The healing process takes a lifetime. It is an uphill battle. You are never going to be the same person you were before they got ahold of you. After years of abuse, leaving your abuser is, up to that point, the HARDEST thing you will ever do. Then once you do it, there is a short period where you feel liberated and peace comes over you because you truly believe it is over. Finally, you get to be free of this person and you will never have to be controlled or abused by them ever again. Well, think again!

That feeling is very short-lived. Abusers never let go. They never let you have peace. They spend their life tormenting their victims and vowing to make them pay for leaving. This is called post-separation abuse. Nothing, shy of entering the witness protection program can stop them. They walk right through court orders and protection orders. They act as if they are above the law.

It does not matter how long a victim is divorced from an abuser. They will never be free and clear of any further worries or litigations. Unfortunately, until they are stopped they will just keep coming at them every opportunity that they get. They will make up reasons to sue their victim in court. Even after the kids are grown they continue to attack. Vexatious litigators are people who sue other people for improper purpose and they do it to inflict emotional and financial hardship on their victims. It is harassment. They do it because they can!

Currently, there is no law in NC preventing a person from filing frivolous lawsuits against another person. They can sue who they want, when they want, for no real reason, just to harass them and they can do this AS MANY TIMES AS THEY WANT!!! Abusers who have unlimited funds will stop at nothing and will just keep filing lawsuits until their victim is either bankrupt or until they just can't take it anymore and decide to end their own life. The stress that this kind of bullying inflicts on someone is more than some victims can endure! When you are a victim of post-separation abuse through vexatious litigation, you can get to the point where you feel like there is no way out. The abuser just will not stop and you have no resources to continue fighting. You can feel hopeless and feel isolated and alone.

Why should a person have to sell their home, their car, and their belongings and then spend every dime that they make to provide for their family, on lawyers to protect them from a person that just will not quit harassing them?

I have been brought to court by my abuser so many times in multiple states and it is just so exhausting. I have never done this before. I have never asked for help. I have never made noise about any of it. I have been suffering quietly and enduring it behind a smile every day for over a decade. How's that working out for me you ask???? Well, it isn't. I am now up against a wall. I have no resources to fight. I need help. I can not do this without your help. I need a lawyer, and they have to be good. Everything I have worked for is on the line. Without a defense, my abuser will follow through with a large judgment against me. If he is successful it would mean he can put a lien on my home.

Not only do I need help with legal fees, but I also will be working towards having a bill passed to prevent Abusive Litigation in the state of NC. This will take a lot of support from my community. So many other people are dealing with the same kind of abuse and laws need to be changed to protect victims, from frivolous lawsuits that cause them to drown themselves financially.

Furthermore, there needs to be a non-profit to help facilitate defense for victims of vexatious litigants. Help me stop my abuser so I can help others stop theirs!!

No amount is too small. It will take a village to stop them! Every dollar will help assist in making it so others who are not strong enough to fight, have someone to help carry their burden.

Here is a link to sign a petition to change Legislature. Please go and sign the petition! https://www.change.org/StopAbusiveLitigation

-Anonymous GateKeeper