A New Life for Malakai and Me
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We need help now....please! Homeless transgender teen and mom are apart and try as we might, things keep stacking against us. We need a home where we can love and support each other and Malakai can finally physically transition and be happy.
Other ways to donate: cash app, $Windoe ; Venmo @Wendy-Langley-5 ; paypal.me/windoe1 Anything will help.
WHO IS MALAKAI?
Malakai is a remarkable, loving 16 year old trans boy who has found himself homeless and separated from his mother. He's staying with his friend right now and it has been a touch and go situation
It's been a tough road for Malakai. His stay-at-home dad died a few years ago after a long heartbreaking battle with alcohol, which he eventually lost.
It was after that tragedy that Malakai realized he needed to be the person he always thought he was.
I've always had his back, but wanted to wait until he was 16 to start hormones and subsequent top surgery. So he started his social transition. He changed his name and gender with his friends and family and at school, which came with it's own set of challenges.
Then he found himself homeless through no fault of his own.
Malakai has since had persistent nausea and an inability to eat and has lost at least 40 pounds as a result. I have been taking him to doctor after doctor who are of little help except to give him nausea and anxiety medication. The doctors say his health issues are because of depression and anxiety from gender dysphoria, the loss of his father, school, and the uncertainty of homelessness.
WHO AM I?
I am Malakai's mom, Wendy. I am 57 years old. I am living in a homeless shelter. A progression of events and my inability to manage them effectively led me here and broke up my family.
One of the biggest catalysts was a long-term resistant, recurring clostridium difficile (c-diff) infection resulting from taking clindamycin for a stubborn tooth infection.
After about six months of sickness and going back and forth to the emergency room, I was finally taken by ambulance to the hospital and put into ICU isolation for a week. When I was discharged, I was still very sick and on antibiotics for two months bedridden trying to recover. It was a long, arduous sickness, and my body and spirit haven't been the same since.
In the meantime, I lost my job of 30 years two weeks before going into the hospital. Because I missed so much work, they let me go.
Unable to pay bills that had piled up, things snowballed into the situation we are now. We lost our home where Malakai was born and nearly all of our possessions. Malakai's brother was also forced out onto his own before he was ready.
The persisting COVID / coronavirus pandemic has made it extremely difficult to get things together. There is no help here, just slave labor. I'm working the kitchen up to 15 hours every day just to keep my bed. They promised a real job after a 30 day evaluation and then extended it another 30 because they said I "worked too much." The arthritis in my feet and hands is unbearable because of this. This leaves no time for anything else. I'm stuck. They kick people out of here right onto the street for the smallest things, and I'm walking on eggshells everyday.
MALAKAI AND I NEED TO BE TOGETHER
WHAT WE NEED
A Place to Call Home
I was able to file bankruptcy completely by myself despite having no computer access. Now I feel confident I can get approved for a place to rent.
EMPLOYMENT
Get out of this awful situation with empty promises. Wifi in our new place so I can work a job remotely from home and home-school Malakai through his transition.
TRANSPORTATION
A car for basic transportation to doctors' appointments, counseling sessions and general needs.
MEDICAL
The cost of Malakai's hormones, top surgery, and the legalities of changing his name and gender are yet unknown. I've read that top surgery alone costs upwards of $10,000. I'm hoping any insurance I have will cover most of it.
Once we get settled back into a family together, we'll be able to spring forward with a new sense of self and security.
I will keep you posted throughout Malakai's new life journey of rebirth and growth. I pray for help to make this possible.
With much love and appreciation,
Wendy
Other ways to donate: cash app, $Windoe ; Venmo @Wendy-Langley-5 ; paypal.me/windoe1 Anything will help.
WHO IS MALAKAI?
Malakai is a remarkable, loving 16 year old trans boy who has found himself homeless and separated from his mother. He's staying with his friend right now and it has been a touch and go situation
It's been a tough road for Malakai. His stay-at-home dad died a few years ago after a long heartbreaking battle with alcohol, which he eventually lost.
It was after that tragedy that Malakai realized he needed to be the person he always thought he was.
I've always had his back, but wanted to wait until he was 16 to start hormones and subsequent top surgery. So he started his social transition. He changed his name and gender with his friends and family and at school, which came with it's own set of challenges.
Then he found himself homeless through no fault of his own.
Malakai has since had persistent nausea and an inability to eat and has lost at least 40 pounds as a result. I have been taking him to doctor after doctor who are of little help except to give him nausea and anxiety medication. The doctors say his health issues are because of depression and anxiety from gender dysphoria, the loss of his father, school, and the uncertainty of homelessness.
WHO AM I?
I am Malakai's mom, Wendy. I am 57 years old. I am living in a homeless shelter. A progression of events and my inability to manage them effectively led me here and broke up my family.
One of the biggest catalysts was a long-term resistant, recurring clostridium difficile (c-diff) infection resulting from taking clindamycin for a stubborn tooth infection.
After about six months of sickness and going back and forth to the emergency room, I was finally taken by ambulance to the hospital and put into ICU isolation for a week. When I was discharged, I was still very sick and on antibiotics for two months bedridden trying to recover. It was a long, arduous sickness, and my body and spirit haven't been the same since.
In the meantime, I lost my job of 30 years two weeks before going into the hospital. Because I missed so much work, they let me go.
Unable to pay bills that had piled up, things snowballed into the situation we are now. We lost our home where Malakai was born and nearly all of our possessions. Malakai's brother was also forced out onto his own before he was ready.
The persisting COVID / coronavirus pandemic has made it extremely difficult to get things together. There is no help here, just slave labor. I'm working the kitchen up to 15 hours every day just to keep my bed. They promised a real job after a 30 day evaluation and then extended it another 30 because they said I "worked too much." The arthritis in my feet and hands is unbearable because of this. This leaves no time for anything else. I'm stuck. They kick people out of here right onto the street for the smallest things, and I'm walking on eggshells everyday.
MALAKAI AND I NEED TO BE TOGETHER
WHAT WE NEED
A Place to Call Home
I was able to file bankruptcy completely by myself despite having no computer access. Now I feel confident I can get approved for a place to rent.
EMPLOYMENT
Get out of this awful situation with empty promises. Wifi in our new place so I can work a job remotely from home and home-school Malakai through his transition.
TRANSPORTATION
A car for basic transportation to doctors' appointments, counseling sessions and general needs.
MEDICAL
The cost of Malakai's hormones, top surgery, and the legalities of changing his name and gender are yet unknown. I've read that top surgery alone costs upwards of $10,000. I'm hoping any insurance I have will cover most of it.
Once we get settled back into a family together, we'll be able to spring forward with a new sense of self and security.
I will keep you posted throughout Malakai's new life journey of rebirth and growth. I pray for help to make this possible.
With much love and appreciation,
Wendy
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Wendy Dennis Langley
Organizer
Albany, OR
