PLEASE HELP my mom get started in a safe home

Hi,

My name is Jason, and I've been struggling financially to take care of my Mom and find a safe place for her to live. She has lived independently in a senior community for several years, but her apartment is no longer safe. Aside from concerns with the property's condition, which has caused her falls and illness, she also lives in constant fear and with extreme anxiety and depression triggered by a member of the management where she resides. I am in the process of getting back on my feet financially, and I cannot help my mom with this immediate concern, which is causing me great distress.

My mom had a successful shoulder replacement surgery and therapy during a rehab stay a few years ago. She was injured again while doing occupational therapy at home. Following this, my father then passed away. My mom lost her Medicaid insurance due to being over the maximum income bracket from being converted to my father's social security. Please note that when some of her pro-rated obligations eroded her monthly social security, she was not much better off, especially during and post-pandemic. When I got her back on Medicaid, Covid-19 was looming, and she could not attend the physical therapy she needed. My mom was still emotionally dealing with the loss of my father and had developed severe anxiety over the pandemic. She already had PTSD, depression and anxiety from past trauma in her life.

I work in an industry that was almost completely shut down, other than virtual efforts, due to the pandemic. I volunteered to stay with my mother as long as she needed me. I was unaware that I needed to clear this or that it was not legal to stay with her as a (non-resident) voluntary caregiver. It was an ethical choice when even the world governments did not know how to handle the concerns. I did not think I was doing anything wrong because I had done the same for my dad for quite some time under the same property management, and they were well aware of it. I was NEVER requested to provide any documentation or sign any agreements. It was impossible to keep home health aides consistently, and it was becoming unsafe for them to come and go anyway. It also became nearly impossible for me to travel back and forth to my residence in another state, and also not safe for either of us. Initially, we were both approached in such a hostile manner by a member of the management where she resides that it triggered the pre-existing PTSD that we both have. It began taking a mental and physical toll on my mother, which is still unrepairable. She had previously done a remarkable job--with the help of a therapist--of moving on from the past and dealing with my father's passing. That was until this woman harassed and bullied her/us off the record before approaching it professionally. Even her initial letter was threatening.

The housing courts were closed throughout the pandemic, and there was nothing she could legally do except to try to help us find solutions, which she did not do. I allegedly continued to stay with my mom safely, and we worked through our pandemic anxiety and triggered PTSD caused by this woman during telephone therapy sessions. As the world opened up, we were both preparing to return to living normally again. My mom was even given a new physical therapy order to reverse her condition (somewhat). Around this time, my mom was prescribed and taking a medication that gave her a severe side effect... a pneumonia-like cough. It was so bad that she was winded all the time and often stayed in bed. Once discovered, it took over three months to extract it from her system. I had to continue to care for her. I couldn't prepare her apartment for annual inspections and adequately tend to her care. So the management became aggressive again. They have labeled necessary repairs as infractions and are now trying to bill her. They even made frivolous criminal claims against me. I have proof that I don't reside here, but they "don't care." They have made it clear that my mom has to deal with her concerns alone or go to a nursing home. It is UNACCEPTABLE. It is a NIGHTMARE. Once again, they threatened to evict my mother. There is a trial set for early December to attempt to do so.

This story goes on with more detail, but long story short... my mom is afraid to live where she resides. She hides whenever a maintenance vehicle drives by, which has nearly caused her to fall on occasion. She has become agoraphobic. She is afraid to leave because she fears the management will enter her home. It's VERY SAD. Circumstances dating back to my father's decline and this current ordeal have taken a HUGE financial toll on me. I have promising and secured prospects coming, but at this time, I am temporarily unable to help my mom with legal fees, move her, and help subsidize the increase in her expenses. PLEASE HELP ME TO HELP HER AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.

As mentioned above, the funds will be used to secure a new place for her to live as soon as possible, temporarily cover the increased difference in her expenses for six months, and cover legal costs.