Finding OK - Podcast for Survivors
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Healing from sexual assault and abuse is a long and difficult process. Nothing is more empowering and helpful during this process than the voices and the support of other survivors. When we share with each other, we share strength. "Finding OK" is a podcast that helps others as they heal. Being there for friends and loved ones when they experienced this trauma in their own lives meant a great deal to me. During their time of need I was able to say all the things that I had needed to hear when I had experienced it myself. I want to be able to do that for as many people as possible. I want it to be easy for someone in need to find voices with some real answers to difficult questions. I want it to be easy for someone in need to find help navigating their trauma and their healing process.
It's a heavy subject and it's difficult. Listening to this podcast is not intended to be a re-traumatizing ordeal. My focus is not on story-telling or traumatic walk-throughs of past events. If a guest is comfortable enough to share their experiences specifically it is done in a separate episode, this allows listeners to benefit from the guest's words of healing and empowerment separately if desired, without being re-traumatized. Trigger and Content Warnings are listed with care at the beginning of each episode.
This podcast is intersectional and inclusive. Sexual assault and abuse affect people of all ages, genders, races, religions, and sexual orientations. It is profoundly important to me that those who join me on the podcast are survivors themselves. It's extremely difficult to be surrounded with people who don't understand what you're going through, and to be expected to listen to advice from people who have never experienced it themselves.
This podcast originated with a series of affirmations that later became the first episode. More affirmations will follow as these have proved powerful and helpful for people.
Here are some of my favorites:
*You are not worthless.
*You do not owe them anything.
*You are not less than you were before.
*You did not deserve it.
*It wasn't your fault.
*If there are people in your life who believe you're lying, they do not deserve you or your time.
*If your experience or existence makes others uncomfortable that is their problem.
*You are going to be ok.
*You're not ok. And that's ok.
*No one else can tell you what you should be feeling.
*You are not alone.
*Healing is not linear.
*You are not defined by your trauma. You are not what happened to you.
*No one else can tell you when you should stop feeling angry.
*Not taking legal action does not mean it didn't happen. It does not mean it doesn't matter. It does not mean that it was ok.
*Your forgiveness is yours to give. It is your choice whether or not you ever forgive them.
*You are not incapable of forming or maintaining a healthy and loving relationship.
*Thoughts of revenge or violence do not make you a bad person.
*No one deserves what was done to you.
*Anyone who says you should, "Let it go." or, "Just get over it.", is a complete and utter moron who has no idea what they are talking about.
Hearing other survivors discuss their experiences with recovery, and accepting that healing is non-linear are game-changers. I want to help listeners believe they will be "Ok again".
Answering listener questions will become a part of the podcast as the listener base grows. I will have a psych consult available when emails start coming in to ensure I am answering as responsibly as possible.
Funding goes towards hosting fees on Buzzsprout. Please help keep the podcast going!
Thank you for your help and support!
PLEASE share!
"Finding OK" can be found on Buzzsprout here:
http://findingok.buzzsprout.com/
#metoo
It's a heavy subject and it's difficult. Listening to this podcast is not intended to be a re-traumatizing ordeal. My focus is not on story-telling or traumatic walk-throughs of past events. If a guest is comfortable enough to share their experiences specifically it is done in a separate episode, this allows listeners to benefit from the guest's words of healing and empowerment separately if desired, without being re-traumatized. Trigger and Content Warnings are listed with care at the beginning of each episode.
This podcast is intersectional and inclusive. Sexual assault and abuse affect people of all ages, genders, races, religions, and sexual orientations. It is profoundly important to me that those who join me on the podcast are survivors themselves. It's extremely difficult to be surrounded with people who don't understand what you're going through, and to be expected to listen to advice from people who have never experienced it themselves.
This podcast originated with a series of affirmations that later became the first episode. More affirmations will follow as these have proved powerful and helpful for people.
Here are some of my favorites:
*You are not worthless.
*You do not owe them anything.
*You are not less than you were before.
*You did not deserve it.
*It wasn't your fault.
*If there are people in your life who believe you're lying, they do not deserve you or your time.
*If your experience or existence makes others uncomfortable that is their problem.
*You are going to be ok.
*You're not ok. And that's ok.
*No one else can tell you what you should be feeling.
*You are not alone.
*Healing is not linear.
*You are not defined by your trauma. You are not what happened to you.
*No one else can tell you when you should stop feeling angry.
*Not taking legal action does not mean it didn't happen. It does not mean it doesn't matter. It does not mean that it was ok.
*Your forgiveness is yours to give. It is your choice whether or not you ever forgive them.
*You are not incapable of forming or maintaining a healthy and loving relationship.
*Thoughts of revenge or violence do not make you a bad person.
*No one deserves what was done to you.
*Anyone who says you should, "Let it go." or, "Just get over it.", is a complete and utter moron who has no idea what they are talking about.
Hearing other survivors discuss their experiences with recovery, and accepting that healing is non-linear are game-changers. I want to help listeners believe they will be "Ok again".
Answering listener questions will become a part of the podcast as the listener base grows. I will have a psych consult available when emails start coming in to ensure I am answering as responsibly as possible.
Funding goes towards hosting fees on Buzzsprout. Please help keep the podcast going!
Thank you for your help and support!
PLEASE share!
"Finding OK" can be found on Buzzsprout here:
http://findingok.buzzsprout.com/
#metoo
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Hecate F. Okay
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Norwalk, CT
