11/8/2024

Dear Friends and Family,

As of Monday the 4th of November, The very light of my life - my Angel and truly incredible wife & best friend of 32 years, suddenly died during completion of a hip surgery, following a very bad fall she took on Sunday the 3rd. This is an emergency request fund following her sudden loss.

As many of you know, beginning back in February & March of last year, 2023 - Debbie - my wife, angel, and soulmate of more than 30 years, became critically ill due to major medical issues, which very harshly resulted in her losing one of her legs above the knee at the beginning of April, and I have never in my life seen anyone endure the kind of pain and loss she went through, and still somehow kept a spirit, light, humor, and strength of kindness that set an example of love, brave determination, and unending thoughtfulness she still kept within her that amazed all of us.

This page is being sent out for TRULY urgent survival help and expenses which is now desperately needed to settle her affairs, keep my home, and keep our small family business alive.

The sheer amount of around the clock care as her sole primary caregiver - has been a crushing difficulty that we have been barely navigating for the last year and a half, and with her unexpected death this week and impending loss of much of her social security income, i am very close to losing everything we ever tried to accomplish, including a stable place to live.

Her strength of character & never-quit spirit, and our absolutely inseparable love played a huge role in our survival, thru the worst and most unexpected challenges that we ever had to face together in this life.... and as her sole, lone, primary caregiver, we have been constantly exhausted and tortured by the pain and difficulties she has endured, up until her brutally difficult passing this week, in what was at least her 14th or 15th hospitalization since early last year.

We had really not had a letup at all in this cycle for more than 16 months now with little relief.

*All* of our life savings are long gone, with no cushion or backup.

The good credit that took us years to rebuild is failing rapidly, and even now i still have *Urgent* car repairs that we have STILL not been able to manage. The Friday before her passing the transmission failed on my only suitable work vehicle, and at this point - i am once again months behind, with utility shutoff and eviction notices having become a monthly reality for us, including this very week, for many months now.

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There were just too many post-amputation complications in part caused by some truly awful medical mistakes last year, which added *months* of unexpected wound care, a far extended loss of strength, immense ongoing pain, a much longer continuing mass of medical follow-ups which deeply slowed her progress, further complications, and continued to make it deeply difficult for us to earn enough real income to recover during this time.

This is urgently needed help that more deeply pains me that i could ever put into words to even consider having to ask for at this time - and my heartfelt hope is that any one or more people in our world that might have the resources can help.

i have only thanks of endless praise to everyone that has already done so much to help, and so much more than that, already.

We are,

Always and forever,

Maryanne & Debbie Arnow

Deborah Ann Arnow - June 1st, 1952 - November 4th, 2024