A little background info.:
Cassie and I met on Match.com in July 2006, were engaged in August of 2007 and got married on June 21, 2008. In May 2009 we found out we were pregnant while on vacation. About 4 weeks later we miscarried and so the healing began.
We tried getting pregnant again for a long time with no success and finally turned to a fertility clinic. After thousands of dollars and no results Cassie and I had to decide if we were going to go to the next step with the clinic or consider adoption. This was in late 2010 when we started seriously thinking about adoption but we were scared and hesitant because we knew nothing about adoption or where to go or even who to talk to about it. In late January or early February 2011 we started going to a newly formed Small Group (Bible Study) which was hosted by the department head of the Love-A-Lot ministry at our church.
As Cassie and I became more comfortable with the idea of adoption and decided to persue this option, the Love-A-Lot ministry hosted an adoption workshop at our church on a Saturday. After the seminar Cassie and I talked in depth about domestic versus international adoption and decided for the sake of our already suffering finances and the timeframe that domestic would be the best option. We continued to talk about it over the next several days and then about 10 days after the adoption seminar I got Cassie and I got an email from the host of the adoption workshop asking us to call her. Since Cassie was off work that day and wouldn\'t see the email until the next day I figured since I was at my desk at work and I was on my lunch break I would give her a call thinking we were being kicked out of our small group for smelling funny or something. LOL. What I didn\'t know is this is the phone call that would change the rest of our lives.
I picked of the phone and dialed her phone number from the signature on her email. A soft voice on the other end said \"Hello?\"
After the normal \"hey how are you doing\" I asked her \"so what\'s going on\" I was met with a brief silence and then a drawn out \"welllll \" - I was on edge. What possibly could she be ready to tell me. I really had no idea what she was about to say. She resumed by saying that she had a mother approach our church and was looking for adoptive parents for her child and the first couple she thought about after talking to the birth mother was me and Cassie. Then there was a long pause and nothing but silence. I could feel the emotion quickly building inside me, the thought of Cassie and I becoming parents was becoming a reality and not only that it was through adoption - the very thing we had been discussing in depth over our evening meals at the dinner table at home. The emotion built up in me in a matter of seconds, my throat began to flutter, my head began to lower and my eyes began to fill with tears - good tears. I sat silent at my desk with the phone to my ear and my sight blurry from tears and I just took in the moment. Cassie and I have cried a lot through our efforts to be parents but these were different tears - tears of joy, tears of relief, tears of answered prayers.
Needless to say the rest of that day went by pretty quick but my drive home took forever it seemed. I got home and it was so hard not to just blurt it out when I walked in the door. I did my usual upon arriving home - changed out of my work clothes, read through the mail and played with the dog. Then the moment I waited for. I was sitting at the kitchen table and she was telling me about her day and as she tapered to a long pause I took a deep breath and told myself I wasn\'t going to get choaked up when I told her. I explained the email I received to Cassie and then the phone call and what was said. I told her the situation as it was explained to me and as I was telling her I could see it in my wife\'s beautiful eyes. I could see her teary eyes smiling - smiling with almost a relief of sorts. As I explained she listened all the while just wiping tears from her face and a look of just intense draw into what I was saying. I could see her going theough all the emotion I so professionally displayed at the office earlier that day. When I was done talking I stopped and looked at her and she said, \"So....? What does this mean?\" I answered gently yet confident, \"Babe, we\'re gonna be parents.\"
So we sat at the dining room table asking each other a hundrd questions that clearly neither one of us knew the answer to. We were like two kids who has just been told we were going to Disney World. We had so many things we needed to know and we needed to knwo right away. So shortly thereafter we left our house and headed to the house of the dept. head who had made this the best day of our lives.
We arrived nervous, excited, anxious, scared and a little on edge. What were getting into? Was this real? Were we really gonna possibly do this. She welcomed us into her home. Her husband took their two beautiful children to keep them occupied while the three of us sat at their dining room table and fell in to deep discussion. The questions flew from both os us at her a hundred miles an hour. She couldn\'t answer them fast enough so we started writing them down. She didn\'t have all the answers but we were sure she woudl get them for us. We must have talked for almost two and a half hours about the situation before realizing we had completely lost track of time. It was just after ten o\'clock and she had to work the next day just like us. As much as we didn\'t want to we forced ourselves to leave there so she could get to bed and we needed to do the same.
Over the next several days we exchanged emails and phone calls with her about the birth mother and the baby. As we gained more information we realized we wanted to do this - we wanted to adopt this unborn, prescious baby BOY! . . . . . .
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