As many of you know, this has been a hard year for our family. We've been figuring out the hard process of pulling one household into two, moving apartments, me leaving a dream job, starting 2 new jobs, and downsizing to one job, in addition to Stella's surgery and current recovery.
The problem we're facing is that our plan to end the marriage by November was thwarted when he decided he did not want to share custody. My budget to pay my lawyer is no longer viable.
While I hope we are coming to an agreement about custody, it's still not over, and I don't know how things will be finalized. Until it's officially over, I want to be prepared to have appropriate representation.
I've been characterized as negligent, abusive and incompetent by my ex. He continues to accuse me of abusing our son, neglecting our daughter and abusing him. My main focus: Get beyond the accusations and arguments, and making sure the kids have the balance and benefit of both parents.
My ex is not a bad person, but I feel confident saying that he hasn't been fair during this process; He's contacted friends and asked them not to help me, and accused them of spying on him for me. He's mentioned moving across the country with Stella and Duncan on several occasions. I want our kids to be able to have access to both parents. If that is to be the reality, I need help, and access to a skilled professional attorney.
I have sent thousands of dollars his way, and have been supporting us all with my income, driving all over when Stella was in the hospital and recovery facilities, praying and reaching out for help when I couldn't do it alone. I'm still reaching out.
Can you help? Custody shouldn't be a matter of who has the cheapest lawyer. Stella and Duncan deserve to have both parents and a healthy, balanced childhood. This past year has proved that they'll need both of us to acheive that balance.