My Sons horrific childhood sexual abuse recovery

My Son, Ross was the victim of horrific sexual abuse which started when he was just 12 years old. This abuse happened multiple times a week for a period of 3 years and persisted of anal and oral rape, he was manipulated into keeping quiet. His life and innocence was taken from him by no fault of his own. He kept this to himself for over 8 years. In 2015 Ross revealed the abuse he was subjected too and we accompanied him reporting it to Kent police. Shortly after this Ross's mental health deteriorated and in 2016 he attempted to take his own life - during this year (2016) he took razor blades to his body and face, crashed his car and was admitted into hospital. In August 2016 he was diagnosed with PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).

With therapy such as CBT & EMDR Ross started his recovery to getting better. 

Late last year (2018) a Crown Court trial begun and Ross's abuser faced 24 charges against him, Ross had to give his evidence in detail over 2 days. On December 7th 2018 he was unanimously found GUILTY and in February (2019) was sentenced to 20 years in prison with a 2 year extended sentence. 

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Since the court trial and sentencing Ross's mental health has slipped. He has decided to wave his anonymity in the hope to help other victims of abuse who are suffering in silence, Ross has now pledged his life to helping others. Little did I know he was suffering quite as bad as he is - only today he has revealed to me that he has recently resorted back to self harming, he is not sleeping well and suffering from flashbacks each night. 

Ross has been to our community mental health team numerous times and has told them just how he is feeling but has been told he would need to wait 1 year for the therapy he desperately needs. We have looked at private psychiatrists for regular care and therapies such as EMDR but we just cannot cover these costs.

I am very worried for my sons well being, I have seen him slip into a very dark place before where he tried taking his own life and I cannot let this happen again. Ross needs urgent medical support and to be taking therapy again for his traumas, I may even need to admit him into a Priory for a short stay. 

Ross does not deserve to be suffering still after all this time and we cannot get the support he needs. I am trying my best to help him but I know he needs urgent care before it's too late. I just want my happy, carefree son back.

You are welcome to view Ross's story as to when he came public about his abuse and when his abuser was sentenced in crown court

Thank you

Donna Jennings
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Tunbridge Wells, South East England, United Kingdom
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