Support for Sue and family

On March 5, 2012 I went to wake my then 62 year old mother, Sue Bartle, for her doctor appointment.  She wouldn't wake up.  My mom was breathing funny and wouldn't wake up no matter what I did.  I screamed for my husband, Ryan, and he came running down.  My then 3 year old son was getting ready for school and we had to keep him upstairs while Ryan and I tried to wake my mom up.  I called 911 and the ambulance was there in seconds even though it felt like hours.  NO matter what they tried she wouldn't wake.  Her sugar was 23, her blood pressure was super low.  They rushed her to Hoag hospital, and I followed them praying all along for God to be with my mom.  At the time, I knew about her medical conditions but I don't know that I could ever have been prepared for what happened next.

My mom was in a coma.  She was either low blood sugar thru the night or portion of the night, or low/no oxygen thru the night or portion of the night or a combo of the two somehow.  She was declared Brain Dead.  Not brain damaged, brain dead.  Try being 29 and hearing that about your only mother, seeing her hooked to tubes and being help together with a machine.  My mom had told me since birth that she wouldn't ever want to live like that so I started fighting to have life support removed.  I begged for God's will not for mine, not for hers, not for anyone’s.  I begged if God wasn't going to heal her completely - COMPLETELY - then He needed to take the decision from me and take her home.   I knew what she wanted so I didn't care about me or anyone else, only about my mom.  She was transferred to an extended care hospital and I continued my fight. After 7 weeks in a coma and major fights on my part with primarily family, they removed the supports from my mom.  Then the miracles started happening.  

By the next day, my mom was breathing on her own.  Within a week she started having more brain waves, she started moving her mouth and moving.  Over the next 2 months, she started to walk, eat and talk.  She was moved around to extended care facilities, and had to spend 2 weeks in a mental ward due to mental/brain related rage issues.  After the mental ward, she was transferred to Royale Health Care in Santa Ana, where she stayed for 2 months.  When she left Royale, my mom was diagnosed with brain damage and damage related/induced dementia.  She walked out of the hospital, knowing who I was.  She barely knew at that point but she knew who I was for the most part.  

I saw my mom be healed of every ailment she ever had - diabetes, high blood pressure, chronic pain, gastroparesis.  .God healed her of diabetes (her numbers became normal and she needed shots of less than 5 ml until a year ago and now uses nothing but a pill).  God healed her of gastroparesis, she doesn't throw up or even hint of stomach pain anymore.  God healed her of high blood pressure, hers is perfect now.  God healed her of every single ailment she had, with only the dementia and brain issue left.  Mom was a miracle, a walking talking miracle.  She left Royal Health and went in a care house for 4 months until my husband Ryan and I felt like my mom was in a position that we could care for her ourselves, with a caregiver. 

Turns out - we were wrong.  Well, physically and emotionally we were/are set but it's the financially part that is drowning us all.  Caregivers for mom have ranged from 2k-3k a month, no matter what I sacrificed for service or bargained on rates.  It's true you get what you pay for in some instances.  We are on our 5th caregiver, and we are finally blessed with someone that can properly care for mom lovingly, responsibly and with Christ in their heart.  I'm behind in payments and owe my mom's last caregiver service/company $3,518 and they no longer service mom. 

We have depleted our entire savings (it had been over $10k) and are living paycheck to paycheck yet again.  My mom was to have had a lump sum pension payment of $25,000 come in which was going to pay for her bills and her caregivers but because I was sick with my own medical crisis last year we supposedly missed a deadline or something and they denied the lump sum.  I have exhausted all appeals to fight that decision and have been repeatedly denied. 

My mom owes $2,100 copay to Royal Health for her time there, and they are threatening to sue me since I haven't been able to pay them.  My mom owes $750 to the pharmacy from the care house she was in because they let the bill get so high the 4 months she was there.  My mom also has $20,000+ to the IRS and State for taxes from 2007, 2006, 2012 and 2013 combined.  She failed to file 2007 and 2006.  We've worked with our tax guy to get that down and that's the final total.  They garnish a big chunk of her social security on one of the years and when that's done they will garnish for the rest.  Because I can't pay them any other way.   My mom needs her teeth fixed, but we can't afford dental insurance.  I've found quotes for $100 month but that's $1200 a year - don't have it - then the work is probably upwards of $10k+/1. 

Ryan and I have a 7 month old baby that we must pay child care for, a 6 year old that needs after school care and I have $100 monthly medical expenses myself for chronic pain from endometriosis and nerve damage.  I really need nerve injections but 6 weeks of injections would be $330.  I can't even afford that to take care of myself.

I'm sobbing as I type this because I don't know who is even going to see this.  We need so much help and I've begged and pleaded to God.  We can't do this anymore.  We can't get out of the hole that was created just trying to help and protect my mom.  Doing the right thing is costing me everything and hurting my family.  My pride is gone hence why I am typing this.  If there is anyone out there reading this, and you have a miracle ready, my family could use one.   I totaled all the expenses we are behind in and that are critical to daily living.  $35,000 will get us breaking even again. I know God has a plan but I don't know what it is or when it will happen.  I do know in everything we will Glorify my Lord. 

We need prayer but we need financial help.  I helped my mom because that's my job.  But I need someone to help me.  Thank you

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Kristi Romero 
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Huntington Beach, CA
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