A Bump in the Road... Our Fertility Story

Grover and I have been married a little over 10 years. We dated 3 and a 1/2 years and during that time we became the best of friends. It's a time we wouldn't trade for because it gave us a solid foundation for marriage. We met through a mutual friend. I kept hearing how Grover was so sweet and that he was just a big ole teddy bear. Our friend called me one night after I'd had knee surgery and told me that her and a couple friends were going out to have dinner and why didn't I come too. Here I sat in a huge brace that went from above my knee to the top of my foot so wardrobe was limited to sweats and sweatshirt. Oh and the piece of resistance is the crutches! HA! Our friend gave me a few minutes before she would be here to pick me up! Not enough time to try and fix up! Lol! So I ran a brush through my hair and straightened my hair so I at least my hair looked nice. We get to Joe's Crab Shack and I look up and here comes a good looking young man towards our car. I ask my friend who that was and she says that's Grover! My mouth fell open and I said oh no you did not just try to set us up! She ducks her head and grins! I knew right then she was guilty! I knew that I wanted to get to know this man that I had heard about for so long when we get called to the table and Grover and his friend Josh "trip over" each other to be the one to pull my chair out and scoot me up to the table and take my crutches to put them up. Let's just say Grover won. The whole evening I couldn't want for anything because I was very attended too. My friend Susan and I got back in her car to head home. On the way back to my house she starts quizzing me about what I thought about her friend Grover. Let's just say I was hoping to get the chance to really get to know him better. Little did I know that after she dropped me off that she promptly called Grover and asked him what he thought of me. He also wanted to get to know me too. He told my friend that he had tickets to a concert coming up that next weekend. He called me and we went to dinner at a fun little mexican food place and then went to the concert. From that night on our relationship grew into friendship and then into love to last a lifetime. He had already shown me that he was interested in me and seeing where our relationship would go. I wanted that too but was really shy and didn't know what to do to show him that I felt the same way. Finally one night he was leaving and I stood on my tiptoes and kissed him on his cheek! Believe me that was a BIG step for me. From that moment on our friendship grew into love and our friendship grew into a solid foundation for the next step of our relationship. At the time Grover was working shift work at a local tv station. So with our work schedules it made it hard to get together but we always found a way to be together. Even if it was sitting on the couch watching a rented movie or just watching tv and talking. I would meet him at Sonic or Subway before he went to work and we'd have dinner together. As they say the rest is history! We married in a special ceremony at our church surrounded with family and friends that had supported us on our journey thus far. While gone on our honeymoon Grover fell ill. Here we were in a place we knew no one and my new husband was sick. I got some medicine for him and he was feeling better by the next day. So we went on with our trip and had a great time until we were on our way home and I fell deathly ill. Poor Grover was so sweet and kind. He pulled into a gas station and got me some gatorade, gingerale and crackers. We were in the middle of no where and I got very sick. So he pulled over on the side of the road. All the rest of the way home I was sick. He called my parents and told them I was deathly sick and syto they told us to come to their house and they would help him care for me. He was so worried about me because I wasn't bouncing back like he did. After a few days I felt better so we got to go to our new apartment. We walked in and everything was set up and ready for us. While we were on our honeymoon my parents surprised us by getting our apartment set up. Which wound up to be a bigger blessing than any of us knew. While we were on our honeymoon I got a call with a job offer that I couldn't refuse and I was to start that job as soon as we got home! So having our apartment set up was amazing! During our first year of marriage we lost my precious Mother in Law and Father in Law. Then my sweet Mom had a major stroke and I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Which has made it harder to get pregnant. During this time Grover and I were hoping to become pregnant and start our family. We have tried and tried to become pregnant to no avail. We talked with our dr and his advice was to give it time. So we have given all the time that we can give due to biological time constraints and me being diagnosed with PCOS and Endometriosis and a endocrine problem. So adding children to our family has been impossible. We had tried to get into a fertility specialist for awhile to no avail. This is even after my obgyn had tried to get me in. Finally got a appointment for next year. When all of a sudden I get a call that they had to cancel that appointment because the dr would be gone and that they had no openings. So we didn't know what we would do. When a couple days later I got a phone call from the fertility dr's office asking if we could come in that next week. Of course we jumped at the chance. The dr ran blood work and ran tests to find out what was causing us to not be able to have children. She came up with a plan of treatment. That is where you come in if you choose to help us in this journey. I have been praying for God to give us peace and understanding if we don't get help. Our children will be raised in a good Christian home and will be taught right from wrong and will be filled with lots of love. Not only by us but with family, friends and a wonderful church family. We pray that you will join us on this journey by first and foremost praying over us and our future children and the procedures that I face. Second if you can help us financially that would be a blessing. We love you and thank you from the bottom of our hearts. May the Lord bless you and keep you. Love, Grover and Kandice