Some of you know our story but many do not, so for that reason I will start at the beginning. We met six years ago and fell in love instantly. We knew we wanted it all. To buy a house, get married, and of course start a family of tiny Wolcott’s. We have succeeded at having two of those things. 

In the months leading up to our wedding we experienced so much heartache and loss. We lost family and friends. We lost ourselves for a while. We put a lot of things on hold while we struggled to find strength in each other. Every hardship we faced became part of our story.

So now it’s time to work on our third thing in life we wanted. Months before our wedding we started the baby making process and then life happened and we decided to take a break for a while. Then right after we got married we decided to officially start trying to have a baby again. We tried for a couple of months but with still no luck and some concern we made our first appointment with the gynecologist.  At first glance and some blood work later it was determined my hormones were off balance. I was put on medication to correct these imbalances and was told to continue trying.  I went for bloodwork continuously during this process rechecking my hormone levels to see if anything had changed, and it finally did. Thats when the abundance of ovulation tests made its way into our home.  Pee on a stick, and again, and again, and again. We had to have timed intercourse. Everything became a schedule for us.  I thought to myself “it can’t be this hard to have a baby” well for us it was.

A year after our wedding life tested us again. More loss. More heartache. 
Your life never turns out how you expect it to but what we didn’t know was how many times life would keep testing us.  We had put baby making on hold again. Our hearts were already so heavy and again we had to find strength in each other. As a couple we never lost faith in each other. We always knew we could lean on one another, no matter how hard it was to continue pushing forward.


That leaves us to now. Back to the doctors we go to get this baby making process going. It was then after more tests we got a call that caught us off guard. “You’re in for a battle” was what the Dr. had said and we were instructed to give RMA (Reproductive Medicine Associates) a call. We were so tired of fighting. Battle after battle, it felt like it would never end. I cried time and time again that it wasn’t fair. We didn’t deserve it. But one thing remained consistent between Shawn and I and that was we wouldn’t stop fighting, no matter how many times we wanted to.

These are the days you never imagine. You never thought you would be that couple that struggles with infertility. But here we are. Life’s sending us another test. 
Infertility was foreign to both of us. We never even considered it. We just knew our journey to becoming parents was taking a little longer than expected. Our lives have become a series of doctor appointments, more bloodwork, more testing, more bad news.  

I remember laying in the doctor’ office watching the screen during my HSG test. After it was over I could tell by the look on the Dr.’s face that there was a problem. My tubes weren't normal. After further inspection it was determined that my left tube is closed and my right tube showed some "abnormalities." I later found out that the right tube was indeed not functioning properly, if at all.
I sat there on the table and cried. I cried for hours. No, it wasn’t the worst news and you don’t need your tubes to have a baby. But it doesn’t change the fact that I was devastated. We learned that we in fact would not be making a baby the old fashioned way but by IVF. (In vitro fertilization)

And so it continues, one more bump in our road to parenthood.

Dealing with infertility is isolating. Unless you have struggled with it yourself you can never really understand all the emotions that come with it.  You can never be mentally prepared for what comes next, that is one thing we have learned. But we have embraced that this is our journey.  If IVF is what we need to do then we will find a way to do it. 
 
That brings me to why we started this go fund me page. We aren’t looking for sympathy or pity. We are just trying to create the family we have always wanted. Unfortunately  when meeting with the finance department it was determined my health insurance does not cover ANY infertility treatment. 

Out of pocket expenses for IVF are close to if not more than $30,000.00.  Me and Shawn both work full time jobs and have saved along the way but you can never really plan for this scenario. 

Shawn and I never ask for anything but this time we need a little help from friends and family. If you could share our story or help us with our goal. We can hopefully be on our way to growing the Wolcott family.