Interim Recovery Assistance - UPDATED

UPDATE

Many may wonder why this Go Fund Me is still being shared and I wanted to provide everyone with an update with what has happened since Kyle's passing.

Kyle was my husband in my eyes and God's eyes...however, he was not my husband on "paper". Due to Kyle's injury at 17 which made him a quadriplegic, he was on Medicaid from then to his passing. If we got legally married, he would lose those benefits. Due to his astronomical medical bills monthly, legally getting married could never become a reality.

Kyle lived his best life and together we lived our best lives. A few years after dating, I became his full time care taker. I quit my job as a nurse to help him because home health is a revolving door due to what the state pays the care takers. So I took on that responsibility. I wanted to so he would have the best care and I had to because he needed the best care. The pay was sub par, but the ROI was priceless as I was able to be with Kyle 24/7.

The day that Kyle passed, I was obviously "let go" from my job. Yet the bills did not stop, the debt did not stop. Life does not stop.

When someone passes there is so much to be done with accounts, debts, bills, etc. It is literally every day that calls have to be made, decisions have to be made and it takes hours upon hours just to do what one would think is the simplest of things. I am receiving unemployment but many may know, it is hardly enough to even cover groceries. I was turned down for food assistance. I have tried to secure help in so many ways but am turned down, time and time again because we were not legally married.

I am trying to keep Kyle's house because the mortgage is somewhat affordable once I have a new job. But with everything that needs to be done, I can't take a job at the moment. As we were not married and Kyle did not have a will, I am not entitled to anything and we didn't have much. And I feel like I have not yet had the real chance to mourn Kyle because of everything that has to be done.

As of right now I do not foresee myself working for at least 3 more months. Affairs need to be in place and because of Kyle's disability and us not being married the affairs are compounded times 100. In the meantime bills need to be paid and I want to try and keep the house because I am not going to be able to afford anything else. So that is why I am asking for assistance, any and every dollar helps until I can get back on my feet.

Earlier posts -

As many of you know my fiancé Kyle is a C4, C5 quadriplegic. Kyle suffers from what is called a neurogenic bladder where his bladder constantly spasms and causes pain. On Friday, July 8 we left our home in Albany NY to travel to Buffalo for a friends wedding reception.

during the drive Kyle was having increased pain and a fever when we arrived to our hotel we had to call an ambulance for Kyle. He was taken to Erie County medical center where it was discovered that he had a bladder rupture and a mild heart attack. We are in good hands with the medical team on his case. However we will need to stay out of town longer than anticipated.

we also need to pay for dog sitting and house sitting, I won’t have any income during this time as I am Kyle’s home health aid.