The addict and the love ones of the addict all suffer the same.
The addict needs love and compassion. They need loved ones and people to work through things with. To relate to and to be understood. To forgive themselves and others. So many of us have had terrible losses, terrible tragedies unimaginable things happen to us in our lives and these things need to be worked through. They each need individual healing. Eventually coming to a place of acceptance, that is not easy. On the contrary.
People hold on to horrific painful things... keeping them inside...and it will absolutely eat away at you...and it does!
Crystal never really worked on many of her deep grief issues and losses and she lived with pain for a long time. She used so she didn’t have to feel the pain and face it, as many do. They’re painful things and hard to face, we have fears, guilt, shame and on... it has to be dealt with to heal. We will have specific tools and healing groups and activities to work through these issues. Tools which help people to cope...so using is not an option. I believe that is possible. There is always hope. We will do this with mentoring, encouragement, support, guidance and love... long term.
Crystal’s place will be like a BED AND BREAKFAST Setting. In a peaceful and serene place with a “family” type atmosphere. The clients will prepare meals together keep house together eat and pray together it will be a “family type” support group.
Learning how to take care of themselves...learning new things different trades that they can use in the real world. The program would not be a detox center or treatment center. It is more of an aftercare and support, a retreat. As one feels triggers and thoughts of using or a downward spiral because life hasn’t been so good to them...this is a place for strengthening...reinforcement...support and a re-fresh. We will have silent meditation, Faith and prayer will be an important role in CRYSTAL’S Dream House. There is so much more to tell but I will share more thoughts on the house, in time.
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Let’s make it a movement... like the wave we make at a football game, all joining as one, for the same outcome...and a continued goal...giving back and helping others.
CRYSTAL’S Dream will be successful in changing lives. I pray some day we have them everywhere!
I am an advocate for Drug Addiction (specifically heroin) Awareness and the damaging effects it has on all. Many great things will come of this tragedy and I will forever fight this cause.
After “dabbling in light drugs” and alcohol in her high school years my daughter realized she could possibly have a problem and with the help of her Dad, my husband, who was active in AA for many years, she decided to attend meetings with him and work a program. Years later she backed off the program, married and lived a great life with a wonderful man. They seemed to have the life everyone dreams of. She never crossed that line again. I went back to school to study addiction in hopes of becoming a Certified Addiction Therapist... things were going well. Crystal became pregnant w twins...long story short...she had an extremely premature birth, at almost 21 weeks. Her son fought to live 3-1/2 months in the NICU and another 3 months at home still hooked up to machines and monitors. His twin sister weighed 1 lb and only lived 3.5 hours after birth. My daughter lost a daughter and had no time to grieve because she had a baby boy that needed her undivided attention. When her son was a couple years old she started taking pain killers for bad lower back pain... from scoliosis. I never knew this. Then another tragedy when her Dad was diagnosed w cancer she took it very hard. After watching him fight to live, struggle and suffer. God took him home. She was devastated....never to be the same. I learned 1 month after my husbands passing that she had a pill problem. OxyContin. Immediately we started seeking help. 12 treatment centers, all kinds of help, time and money, church and prayer and nothing seemed to help... we got glimpses Of hope only to continue this horrific path again. The disease took her and us terrible places. Places I never dreamed. True insanity at its best 24/7 every single day. I always thought and prayed she would get it, and have one heck of a testimony to help others.
My beautiful daughter had such a bright spirit... she lit up a room with her eyes, smile and laughter. She was absolutely beautiful inside and out. Her laughter was contagious... when you heard her laugh you automatically laughed. She was naturally good at making people laugh...she was fun, funny, quick witted, smart and she had absolutely one of the most beautiful hearts I have ever known. She was always fighting for the underdog. If there was a bully out there Crystal would be the one the that stood up to the bullies. And she did... She was a scrapper...Crystal had no fear, she said what she thought no matter what...
Sometimes... well, most of the time she had no filter. But she was real she was as real as it gets and those that knew her knew it, and they loved her. She had this magnetic personality that you wanted to be around. He had a huge heart and she always fought for what was right. She was a great daughter a great friend a great wife and mother. She absolutely adored her son... this was the Crystal I knew before drugs.
Then she met Heroin. He controlled and ruled her life. I thought it was bad before...I now lived in a worse, fear, turmoil, with stress beyond belief. I waited for that dreadful phone call daily. This drug took us to even darker and more dreadful places and then I met a guy who lives his life helping addicts.... he went out of his way to help her, another addict. She went to California and was doing great! She had a true 4 months clean for the first time in almost 7 yrs. she was doing great, sounding and looking great. I was on cloud nine! I have never slept so good. I flew to California to visit her and we couldn’t have been happier. We had so many fun laughs together. The trip to California was now the last time I ever saw my daughter.The day before Thanksgiving I learned she flew home to surprise me. Within 6 hours of being back here in Florida, she was found unresponsive as she had already passed from the very first and last shot (in 4 mos.) of Heroin she would ever do. I never got to see my daughter again. She is gone forever but she will not have lived this struggle in vain. She struggled terrible and she didn’t want to live like this... they feel trapped and some see no way out. There are others out there that need help, love support. Our experience, strength and hope. A place for awareness, healing, and hope for a new day... the passing of my beautiful daughter has this dream weighing very heavy on me with each passing minute.
We will work on greif, pains, self worth, triggers, and learn daily tools, while getting huge doses of love, support and encouragement . A retreat type get away available for clients 1 & 4 weeks at a time, A place to come back to anytime needed...for life. Support and help in staying clean. Not back in society with little to no aftercare support to fall back on. I have great ideas I feel God has put on my heart. This fund will help me get this dream started as all monies would go towards this dream and nothing more. I have even way underestimated monies needed.
Parents should never have to bury their children and Heroin is taking our loved ones out daily in mass numbers. Our babies, brothers, sisters mothers fathers...We need to start somewhere. Please support this fund. Let’s start this movement now!
We need your support...everyone says what can I do? I’ll help however I can, just let me know... I’m humbly letting you know, this is what you can do. $20.00, 30. Anything...anything and everything Helps! You’re helping a cause that touches most of the population in one way or another. None of us are immune...I will keep all updated on the progress. But by the Grace of God, there go I.
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An Addiction Awareness Healing-House
WE WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Thank you sincerely,
AND all whom have lost in the battle of addiction <3
God Bless is all
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