My life blew up, my long time partner got married to another person back in Feb 2025 and never said anything to me. Still hasn't. I found out in July 2025. I don't know what I'm going to do. Money will be helpful in moving forward. It is hard still living in the same house with no communication and he could decide one day to kick me and our son out with nothing. Thankfully our youngest is in the Army so he has a place to live.

TLDR: My ex and I met in Oct. 1998, just after I graduated high school. Married in Aug 2001. Had two beautiful boys in 2002 and 2004. We divorced in 2008. Custody was difficult. We started going to counseling and got back together in 2009. We had what I thought was good relationship for a while. We used the skills we learned in counseling to communicate better. At leased I thought. In retrospect it was just me trying to use the skills and him just placating me. I don't even know how long this had gone on. I thought it was normal. Anyway, about 2010 my ex was hit with terrible anxiety. He couldn't drive alone to work or even locally. We went everywhere together. I would drive him to work and drop him off. We had two school aged children at the time so I would come home and get the kids to school. I would pick them up after school and then go pick my ex up after work. He worked 1 1/2 hours away from home. This went on for a few years, he was going to a therapist and was taking his meds. It seemed to be working so he started driving by himself again. I was able to go back to work. I worked for about 2 years then he called one day and said he couldn't go by himself anymore. So I, thinking I was being a supportive partner and having no other option, quit my job and started going with him again. By this time the kids were in high school and able to take care of themselves. My ex's job location was now closer to home but he needed me to stay close to the job. He said he felt trapped if I was too far away. For about 2 years I did this for him. Then my step dad starting working with my ex but it was only temporary. I was able to go on a trip for my birthday in March 2025, I was gone for about 3 weeks. My ex was ok with it. I had so much fun. I get back home with a new perspective and start trying new things to show my ex that I still loved him. I felt that I needed to because it seemed like we had been.... drifting it guess. Whatever I tried wasn't working, I had no Idea why. Well in July 2025, I found a marriage certificate dated Feb 2025. I was in shock, still shocked to be honest. I'm just trying to figure out what to do. I spoke to a lawyer and found out in California, where we live, there is no common law. Since we never remarried I would have to go to a civil lawyer. When I had a consultation they said I would need to prove that we either had a relationship contract or prove that we had a perceived relationship. As of now his new wife is taking him to work and dropping him off at home. We haven't spoken about it at all.