Trans Couple Cosmo and Kosmo Need Help
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Hello! It‘s Cosmo Maybe we have met somewhere in Berlin, at a performance, queer meetup, or other places in this universe. I have never done a fundraiser before but I know that now is the time. Also, it was my 23rd birthday yesterday so I thought this would be the best gift that others could give me.
Me and my boyfriend Kosmo are in urgent need of money due to my visa situation. Let me explain: I am living in Germany on a Job search visa, which only lasts until the end of 2024. In October, I will move from Berlin to Eberswalde, Brandenburg to start a Masters program in Environmental Science. I am extremely happy to be admitted to this program and excited for my new life in Eberswalde, where my boyfriend now lives. Over the last year, I have been to so many Beratung (advice) appointments with social workers and lawyers trying to find out my options for applying to a new Visa.
The most obvious choice, a student visa, will not be an option for me due to the need to provide proof of financial means in the application. This means that in order to get a student visa, I would have to either present a blocked account with about 10,000 Euros in it, or submit a letter of financial support and bank statements from my parents. I am working as a waiter for minimum wage currently, and don’t have any savings. I do not speak to my parents, because they are Right Wing Transphobic Evangelicals. And, even if I did get a student visa, I would not be able to receive Bafög or even take out Student Loans. I would also not be able to to do S*x Work legally, which is one of my main strategies for making extra money right now. My Masters program is full time: Monday-Friday 9:30-16:30. It is not possible to study part time in this program, so I will need to take out loans and work a flexible job (SW) in order to get by..
I have lived in Germany since I was 18, my entire adult life. All my friends, opportunities, and my romantic relationship are here. I don’t have anywhere to go if I had to go back to the US, since because of my transness the bridges with my family are completely burned. My home state of Idaho is one of the most conservative, Right extremist places in the US. I cannot go back there; the conditions for Trans people are worsening every day. I have a chance to have a fulfilling life studying and working here if I do this masters program.
I am very lucky to have an amazing supportive boyfriend who is also a trans man, and happens to be German. So over the last year, my boyfriend and I have decided that we will get married, which would allow me to work in any way I want, take out student loans, and have a much clearer path towards permanent residency in Germany. We have already applied to get married in Denmark, where it is faster and easier than in Germany.
So we will go to Denmark and do the ceremony by the end of the year, probably in the winter. But unfortunately, money has been a huge stressor for both of us. My boyfriend Kosmo is older than me, which means he has accumulated savings over his life which I have not and has lent me money before so I could get by, which I am very grateful for. But we are both worried, because my current financial situation does not look like it will improve for a while. Kosmo has worked very hard in order to save enough to be an emergency net for him. And with what he had already lent for me and the costs associated with our upcoming marriage, and the fact that I basically have zero disposable income, his savings could disappear quickly, which neither of us wants.
So we wanted to make this Go fund me to ask our queer community, SW community, and friends who can spare some money to support us financially during this time. This ridiculous visa process, which many of you probably know too well, is causing too much of a financial burden on us and there is no way we can handle it ourselves. It would make this marriage process, my move to Eberswalde, and the start of my studies so much less stressful and many tears would not be shed if we could cover these costs:
255- Marriage Application fee
500-Travel to and from Denmark
60-Apostille Fee
100- Visa Application Fee
300-Deposit for my new apartment
600-Repayment of Previous Loan to Kosmo
1815-Cushion Money Until I am able to take Out a Loan/Get Bafög/Get a Consistent Job or Become Successful in SW
3000 Total
Me and my boyfriend Kosmo are in urgent need of money due to my visa situation. Let me explain: I am living in Germany on a Job search visa, which only lasts until the end of 2024. In October, I will move from Berlin to Eberswalde, Brandenburg to start a Masters program in Environmental Science. I am extremely happy to be admitted to this program and excited for my new life in Eberswalde, where my boyfriend now lives. Over the last year, I have been to so many Beratung (advice) appointments with social workers and lawyers trying to find out my options for applying to a new Visa.
The most obvious choice, a student visa, will not be an option for me due to the need to provide proof of financial means in the application. This means that in order to get a student visa, I would have to either present a blocked account with about 10,000 Euros in it, or submit a letter of financial support and bank statements from my parents. I am working as a waiter for minimum wage currently, and don’t have any savings. I do not speak to my parents, because they are Right Wing Transphobic Evangelicals. And, even if I did get a student visa, I would not be able to receive Bafög or even take out Student Loans. I would also not be able to to do S*x Work legally, which is one of my main strategies for making extra money right now. My Masters program is full time: Monday-Friday 9:30-16:30. It is not possible to study part time in this program, so I will need to take out loans and work a flexible job (SW) in order to get by..
I have lived in Germany since I was 18, my entire adult life. All my friends, opportunities, and my romantic relationship are here. I don’t have anywhere to go if I had to go back to the US, since because of my transness the bridges with my family are completely burned. My home state of Idaho is one of the most conservative, Right extremist places in the US. I cannot go back there; the conditions for Trans people are worsening every day. I have a chance to have a fulfilling life studying and working here if I do this masters program.
I am very lucky to have an amazing supportive boyfriend who is also a trans man, and happens to be German. So over the last year, my boyfriend and I have decided that we will get married, which would allow me to work in any way I want, take out student loans, and have a much clearer path towards permanent residency in Germany. We have already applied to get married in Denmark, where it is faster and easier than in Germany.
So we will go to Denmark and do the ceremony by the end of the year, probably in the winter. But unfortunately, money has been a huge stressor for both of us. My boyfriend Kosmo is older than me, which means he has accumulated savings over his life which I have not and has lent me money before so I could get by, which I am very grateful for. But we are both worried, because my current financial situation does not look like it will improve for a while. Kosmo has worked very hard in order to save enough to be an emergency net for him. And with what he had already lent for me and the costs associated with our upcoming marriage, and the fact that I basically have zero disposable income, his savings could disappear quickly, which neither of us wants.
So we wanted to make this Go fund me to ask our queer community, SW community, and friends who can spare some money to support us financially during this time. This ridiculous visa process, which many of you probably know too well, is causing too much of a financial burden on us and there is no way we can handle it ourselves. It would make this marriage process, my move to Eberswalde, and the start of my studies so much less stressful and many tears would not be shed if we could cover these costs:
255- Marriage Application fee
500-Travel to and from Denmark
60-Apostille Fee
100- Visa Application Fee
300-Deposit for my new apartment
600-Repayment of Previous Loan to Kosmo
1815-Cushion Money Until I am able to take Out a Loan/Get Bafög/Get a Consistent Job or Become Successful in SW
3000 Total
Organizer
Cosmo Bledsoe
Organizer
Berlin, Berlin