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I did a Campaign a little over a year ago to Raise money for my mother to Hire an Attorney to Divorce my father. A BIG BIG THANK YOU again to those of you that gave at that time!! <3
Unfortunately, things did not go as planned with mom's pursuit of the Divorce!
We are again in a place of need for help.
PART A of what we wish for, with YOUR HELP: Money to pay off our Attorney so my mother can Dismiss a Voluntary Guardianship we were persuaded to get. And to Dismiss Dissolution of Marriage Case.
In 'short' here is the whole Story, including a little 'background' for those who don't know the history.
My brother and I had our mother removed from our father for Neglect and Endangerment in February, 2016...she was in terrible condition!
After becoming Healthy with me, mother decided she never wants to return to my abusive father.
Our mom is an Alzheimer's Patient. Her Memory is very impaired, but she is very Lucid and aware of what is going on in her life.
In February 2018 she filed for Divorce. It was required that she prove she is Mentally able to seek a Divorce. She was Diagnosed by a Physician and found to have Competence and Capacity to make the decision to Divorce, and to Choose who she wants to live with. She sought a Divorce because she wants to end the relationship, and because she realizes she has Marital Assets that she desperately needs.
My mom realizes how much she will need her share of their Marital Assets for her future Care. She also believes in the Principle of the matter, that she should get what is Rightfully hers! Mother knows she was a good, faithful, and loving wife all the years of their 63 yr Marriage. She realizes that she worked all her life and that her Income contributed as much as my father's did to their accomplishments. She completely believes she should have her share of the Equity that is in their Home. As well as any other Marital Assets that would have been granted to her through a Divorce.
I strongly encouraged her to seek to Divorce my father. I believed that I was doing the right thing to help her get what is RIGHTFULLY HERS! But sadly as you will learn, things did not go in her favor.
My mom was encouraged by two Attorney's that the Divorce would be easily obtained, and not be very costly! My father though exercised his 'right' to contest the Divorce. Opposing Counsel began to delay Hearings and oppose everything he could! He was requiring that my mom give a Deposition. Giving a Deposition is very stressful, and her memory is even worse under stress. We learned that my father would be present for the Deposition, as well as all Hearings. Because of the Control, and Emotional abuse from my father, she drastically 'shuts down' in his presence. We also learned that my mom would be required to be 'examined' and 'cross examined' by both Attorneys at the Hearings. Mom's Attorney realized that mother would not do well in these situations.
Once I realized what all was going to take place, I began to question what to do. As much as I did not want to see mother 'lose' to my father, I mentioned to the Attorney that we may have to back out. The Attorney told us that the way we could get around it was that mom should Petition the Court to have me Appointed as her Legal Voluntary Guardian. The LAST THING I wanted was to be put in a Guardianship! But her Attorney said it would allow for me to 'stand in' for her in all Divorce Proceedings. She insisted this was the way we needed to go. She told us that because it is a Voluntary Guardianship, it can be Dismissed after the Divorce. At great additional Cost she Petitioned for the Guardianship. It was granted. But it never amounted to any help with the Divorce!
We have learned that the Court System is a BUSINESS!! The Judges, Attorneys, and Court Staff make their living from the Business by having Hearings, Hearings delayed, Filing Petitions, Protesting a Petition, Emails, Phone Calls, etc. By allowing the one with the most money to keep these Proceedings going (in this Case my father) they stay in Business! We have spent at least $10,000 thus far, and are no more near to having her Divorce Granted than when we started!!
By February of 2019 we realized that we were not going to be able to continue coming up with the money needed to keep pursuing her Divorce. My mother has let her Attorney know that she wishes to drop the Divorce and Cancel the Voluntary Guardianship. Her Attorney has said she will only resume actions on mothers Case, and file to dismiss the Divorce and Guardianship when she is paid the outstanding balance we owe her.
Once the Guardianship was granted, my mother is considered a 'Ward'. I am getting EXTREMELY concerned that I will get in some kind of Violation of Requirements as her Guardian! There are things were to be Filed within a certain time frame. I know that some of those things had not yet been Filed by the Attorney. I don't know what the consequences could be if the Court finds me in Contempt for not doing the things they require. We would NEVER have gone into a Guardianship and DESPERATELY need it Dismissed!!!
Mom made a $500 payment since I did my Campaign Video. We presently owe the Attorney $2,900.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help us raise this money to pay moms Attorney, so we can get out of this terrible mess and go on with our lives.
PART B of what we wish for, from YOUR HELP: Money to Rent a place
I stopped working back in February of 2016 to take care of my mother. I have given my life completely to being with my mother, keeping her as Healthy and Happy as I possibly can. We both live off her Income so it doesn't go far. Because of making payments to the Attorney, and the expense of the move back to Texas she has nothing left to Rent a House or Apt. We have been putting the Motel room on Credit Cards.
With money she (would have) gained from the Divorce (realistically $45,000) we were hoping to have money to put down on a Property, once we got back to Texas. She was going to have a 'surplus' to draw from which would have allowed her to add to her income Monthly, to afford a better place than what her Income now allows. There is every reason to believe the Judge would have granted her Alimony of some amount as well. Obviously with dropping the Divorce she gets nothing!
I want so badly to be able to contribute, and help pay some of our living expenses. Eventually we are hoping to get settled in a place where I can come up with something I can do to add Income. I am a Dog Trainer, so we are thinking if we found a place that would allow for it, I could Train, Board, or Sell dogs from our Home.
It is very humbling for me to be asking for your help like this! Believe me, I realize YOU (extended Family, Friends, or anyone else) are not responsible for mother and I. As many of you know, mother also has two sons. My brother Kemmy helps us SO much financially as best he can. My other brother Al is struggling just to get by, and can not help financially. Both of them are hard working men, but have other obligations that use up their Income.
Our 'B' Goal is to raise more than the $2,900 needed to pay the Attorney so we will have money to get out of this Motel and Rent a place to live.
If you are a family member or personal friend, you know my level of Integrity. My heart is pure, and my priority is my mother.
If you don't know me/us personally, please believe what you have read and know that we are good people who are temporarily in need of help.
The beauty of this Platform is that the more it is Shared, the more people get an opportunity to give to someone needing a little help. My mother and I are givers. We often give small financial Gifts to people we have seen on GoFundMe, someone's Cause on FB, or to people we meet in our daily life.
We could never express sincerely enough, our level of gratitude to anyone who helps us raise the money we need! If you give $20, $100 or what ever...our THANKS and APPRECIATION would be the same to all!!
Sometimes in life we need help. We humbly ask for help from you. In return we will pray that you never find yourself in a position of financial need, but if you do, and we find out about it...we will do what we can to help YOU!!!
God Bless you!
Tarina and mom
Unfortunately, things did not go as planned with mom's pursuit of the Divorce!
We are again in a place of need for help.
PART A of what we wish for, with YOUR HELP: Money to pay off our Attorney so my mother can Dismiss a Voluntary Guardianship we were persuaded to get. And to Dismiss Dissolution of Marriage Case.
In 'short' here is the whole Story, including a little 'background' for those who don't know the history.
My brother and I had our mother removed from our father for Neglect and Endangerment in February, 2016...she was in terrible condition!
After becoming Healthy with me, mother decided she never wants to return to my abusive father.
Our mom is an Alzheimer's Patient. Her Memory is very impaired, but she is very Lucid and aware of what is going on in her life.
In February 2018 she filed for Divorce. It was required that she prove she is Mentally able to seek a Divorce. She was Diagnosed by a Physician and found to have Competence and Capacity to make the decision to Divorce, and to Choose who she wants to live with. She sought a Divorce because she wants to end the relationship, and because she realizes she has Marital Assets that she desperately needs.
My mom realizes how much she will need her share of their Marital Assets for her future Care. She also believes in the Principle of the matter, that she should get what is Rightfully hers! Mother knows she was a good, faithful, and loving wife all the years of their 63 yr Marriage. She realizes that she worked all her life and that her Income contributed as much as my father's did to their accomplishments. She completely believes she should have her share of the Equity that is in their Home. As well as any other Marital Assets that would have been granted to her through a Divorce.
I strongly encouraged her to seek to Divorce my father. I believed that I was doing the right thing to help her get what is RIGHTFULLY HERS! But sadly as you will learn, things did not go in her favor.
My mom was encouraged by two Attorney's that the Divorce would be easily obtained, and not be very costly! My father though exercised his 'right' to contest the Divorce. Opposing Counsel began to delay Hearings and oppose everything he could! He was requiring that my mom give a Deposition. Giving a Deposition is very stressful, and her memory is even worse under stress. We learned that my father would be present for the Deposition, as well as all Hearings. Because of the Control, and Emotional abuse from my father, she drastically 'shuts down' in his presence. We also learned that my mom would be required to be 'examined' and 'cross examined' by both Attorneys at the Hearings. Mom's Attorney realized that mother would not do well in these situations.
Once I realized what all was going to take place, I began to question what to do. As much as I did not want to see mother 'lose' to my father, I mentioned to the Attorney that we may have to back out. The Attorney told us that the way we could get around it was that mom should Petition the Court to have me Appointed as her Legal Voluntary Guardian. The LAST THING I wanted was to be put in a Guardianship! But her Attorney said it would allow for me to 'stand in' for her in all Divorce Proceedings. She insisted this was the way we needed to go. She told us that because it is a Voluntary Guardianship, it can be Dismissed after the Divorce. At great additional Cost she Petitioned for the Guardianship. It was granted. But it never amounted to any help with the Divorce!
We have learned that the Court System is a BUSINESS!! The Judges, Attorneys, and Court Staff make their living from the Business by having Hearings, Hearings delayed, Filing Petitions, Protesting a Petition, Emails, Phone Calls, etc. By allowing the one with the most money to keep these Proceedings going (in this Case my father) they stay in Business! We have spent at least $10,000 thus far, and are no more near to having her Divorce Granted than when we started!!
By February of 2019 we realized that we were not going to be able to continue coming up with the money needed to keep pursuing her Divorce. My mother has let her Attorney know that she wishes to drop the Divorce and Cancel the Voluntary Guardianship. Her Attorney has said she will only resume actions on mothers Case, and file to dismiss the Divorce and Guardianship when she is paid the outstanding balance we owe her.
Once the Guardianship was granted, my mother is considered a 'Ward'. I am getting EXTREMELY concerned that I will get in some kind of Violation of Requirements as her Guardian! There are things were to be Filed within a certain time frame. I know that some of those things had not yet been Filed by the Attorney. I don't know what the consequences could be if the Court finds me in Contempt for not doing the things they require. We would NEVER have gone into a Guardianship and DESPERATELY need it Dismissed!!!
Mom made a $500 payment since I did my Campaign Video. We presently owe the Attorney $2,900.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help us raise this money to pay moms Attorney, so we can get out of this terrible mess and go on with our lives.
PART B of what we wish for, from YOUR HELP: Money to Rent a place
I stopped working back in February of 2016 to take care of my mother. I have given my life completely to being with my mother, keeping her as Healthy and Happy as I possibly can. We both live off her Income so it doesn't go far. Because of making payments to the Attorney, and the expense of the move back to Texas she has nothing left to Rent a House or Apt. We have been putting the Motel room on Credit Cards.
With money she (would have) gained from the Divorce (realistically $45,000) we were hoping to have money to put down on a Property, once we got back to Texas. She was going to have a 'surplus' to draw from which would have allowed her to add to her income Monthly, to afford a better place than what her Income now allows. There is every reason to believe the Judge would have granted her Alimony of some amount as well. Obviously with dropping the Divorce she gets nothing!
I want so badly to be able to contribute, and help pay some of our living expenses. Eventually we are hoping to get settled in a place where I can come up with something I can do to add Income. I am a Dog Trainer, so we are thinking if we found a place that would allow for it, I could Train, Board, or Sell dogs from our Home.
It is very humbling for me to be asking for your help like this! Believe me, I realize YOU (extended Family, Friends, or anyone else) are not responsible for mother and I. As many of you know, mother also has two sons. My brother Kemmy helps us SO much financially as best he can. My other brother Al is struggling just to get by, and can not help financially. Both of them are hard working men, but have other obligations that use up their Income.
Our 'B' Goal is to raise more than the $2,900 needed to pay the Attorney so we will have money to get out of this Motel and Rent a place to live.
If you are a family member or personal friend, you know my level of Integrity. My heart is pure, and my priority is my mother.
If you don't know me/us personally, please believe what you have read and know that we are good people who are temporarily in need of help.
The beauty of this Platform is that the more it is Shared, the more people get an opportunity to give to someone needing a little help. My mother and I are givers. We often give small financial Gifts to people we have seen on GoFundMe, someone's Cause on FB, or to people we meet in our daily life.
We could never express sincerely enough, our level of gratitude to anyone who helps us raise the money we need! If you give $20, $100 or what ever...our THANKS and APPRECIATION would be the same to all!!
Sometimes in life we need help. We humbly ask for help from you. In return we will pray that you never find yourself in a position of financial need, but if you do, and we find out about it...we will do what we can to help YOU!!!
God Bless you!
Tarina and mom