How does a person even deal with something like that? Well, I’m still figuring that part out. It’s a lot. A lot to process, a lot to drop on your family and friends, a lot to figure out emotionally. It’s difficult to know where and how to start processing… but guess what? No time to wrap your head around it. This is life. You find a way to deal or you drown. Luckily, I don’t have to face this storm on my own.
I’m so incredibly lucky to have a wonderful, compassionate support system around me. My fiancé David is the best partner I could ever hope for in this world. My family is amazing and my friends are so positive and supportive. I don’t know how I could make it through this without all of them.
Things have been moving at a crazy speed ever since my diagnosis on March 19th. I’ve been to see a surgical oncologist, had an MRI, had genetic cancer testing, been told that my hormone receptors are triple positive, been told I need to have chemo, surgery, and radiation, and seen a reproductive medicine specialist to talk about fertility preservation because the chemo will likely take away our chance of conceiving after treatment is over.
The thought of not being able to have our own child has honestly been the scariest part of this whole thing. This is what gets me choked up. This is what breaks my heart. Losing my chance to be a mother and our chance to have our own little family is pretty devastating. You never realize how much you want something until it’s about to be taken from you…
They presented us a lot of options for fertility preservation. All of them are crazy expensive. And we are in the biggest time crunch of our lives, having to make these decisions before I start my cancer treatment. We want to move forward with embryo freezing if we can figure out how we could possibly afford it. I’ve applied for financial assistance through the Livestrong foundation. They have a program to help women with fertility preservation, which is amazing, but even if I quality for the Livestrong assistance, it is still a ton of money that we don't have.
We've spent our lives working hard to acheive our dreams and goals, so it's way outside of our comfort zone to ask for help from anyone, but we are feeling pretty desperate to preserve our hope for a future child. We know that there are many ways to make a family but we would love to have a baby of our own if the possibilty exists. Although I have the biggest fight of my life ahead, I am strong, positive, and determined to win this battle. The thought of having a family of our own one day helps give us hope for the future and makes fighting this fight a little more bearable.
I hope that you will only give if you are able. If you can give, any amount will help, and if you cannot, please share our story. We appreciate your help and your support so much.
Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Love, Anika & David
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