Last Thursday afternoon, my Daughters Beautiful Partner Dave made the decision to leave this world.
Dave was honestly one of the hardest working 'old school' 23 year old's I have ever had the pleasure of spending many hours with.
What many don't realise, is that Dave had previously had treatment for Stomach Cancer and approximately 2 weeks ago, after tests he was notified that he was terminal and had to have surgery Monday 21st February 2022.
Dave was told he probably wouldn't last till the end of the year, surgery or not.
This below is the post that I shared on Facebook the morning after... Hanna has asked me to share so others can experience the emotions that I went through before even I realised what Dave was going through,
Where does one start…
This is possibly one of the hardest experiences I have decided to share,
It will bring up memories to some that will hurt, but this is something I have to put in writing to all,
And if I only reach one person and can change simply one person’s decision, then I have in some small way prevented absolutely mentally brutal and devastation for others,
Last night at 8.45pm, Melissa my eldest girl called me in tears and simply said ‘Dave is gone' for a brief moment I didn’t comprehend what she meant, but then as she talked through the tears, the reality of what she was saying to me became reality,
I asked about Hanna my youngest to make sure she was safe and then the emotions kicked in and haven’t stopped kicking hard,
Like so many of you, especially over the last few years, the loss of someone we know has been unfortunately a regular occurrence, we see it on socials, we feel for them and their families for a few days or a week and life once again takes over,
But when something happens to someone you genuinely care about, someone close, as I said it is brutal, it is punishing and it is a total mind fuck over all those questions you keep asking yourself,
You might have experienced the signs, had conversations and shared the tears,
But when it happens, it is sudden and it is forever and well there is nothing that can bring them back,
I could go on and on and sure time will eventually heal all involved to some degree I suppose, but the present, like right now, nothing probably feels like anything could ever ease the pain, or the tears,
We will never truly know what makes someone finally decide to make the decision that will change the path for so many left behind to pick up the shattered pieces,
But if you are in a dark place just understand that unfortunately Suicide is not the end….
It is just the beginning….
Dave, you were like a son to me, it’s pretty rare that I could actually sit and just chat and laugh and have banter with someone for hours, you were old school, had amazing work ethic and one of the hardest workers I knew, way beyond your 23 years on this earth, I could see so much of a younger me in you,
Thanks for building our Spa Room and making with Hanna our handmade and hand carved timber plaque saying ‘Mr & Mrs Smith’ for our Wedding present and staying up till 1am the day of our Wedding to complete it lol, we know you wanted to change the colour of the Writing, well I guess it stays as it is now forever and we will always think of you when we sit out the back,
Thank you for introducing me to the world of Makita Cordless tools! Last week we finally got a Makita Mower and Whipper Snipper lol
If there is an afterlife and you are looking down, next time we get the fire going I will crank up the Makita Blower and think of you!
I will have a good drink for you later, I will even have one can of Great Northern, but just one lol
Love you Mate x
Salt x ❤️
As you can all imagine Dave's parents are struggling,
So we are simply trying to raise $4,000 to give to Dave's Mum and Dad the funds to say goodbye to Dave without any additional stress.
All donations are being possessed through The TeamFMR Foundation Limited, so donations over $2 are Tax Deductible and totally accountable.
100% of donations will be passed on to Dave's Mum and Dad, Kim and Denis Cronin (As Dave would say Snazzy & Kerry)
Also just so everyone also understands, in Dave's Final Moments, he messaged Hanna and His Parents, He then messaged the Authorities, so that Hanna or his parents didn't find him.
Thank you all in advance,
Update - 7th February 2022,
Hi All, after actually discovering the cost of a burial, we have raised the goal, 100% of funds raised will go to Dave’s Mum and Dad,
Salt x ❤️
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