My name is Kait, and I am starting this to raise enough funds to start a family as a single Mom by choice.

In my early 30’s, I decided to use fertility treatments to preserve my chances of having a child one day. At the time, I was pursuing my PhD while working full time, and I did not have a partner. I didn’t see my circumstances changing any time soon, and I didn’t want to miss my chance to have a child someday. So I saved and went through the difficult process of preserving my fertility.

Fast forward to today. I’m finished with my PhD (yay!), working full time at the same job, and I still do not have a partner. But due to biological clocks, the window for me to conceive a child of my own is quickly closing. And so I’ve decided, after years and years of thought, guidance, and planning to become a single Mom by choice.

I never thought I’d type out those words on the internet for the whole world to read. I have kept that decision close for the most part as I have moved through this next stage of the process over the last 6 months. I started this next stage of the process 6 months ago with the understanding that my health insurance would cover the procedure to conceive through fertility treatments. But that was wrong. They won’t cover anything until I can prove I’m clinically infertile. It feels like I’m being penalized for trying to have a child as a single person. I’ll save you all the exhausting details, but just know this is my last option. Today I received another demoralizing rejection letter in the mail from my insurance. I’ve talked to multiple doctors, called my insurance many times, written appeal letters, but ultimately they won’t cover the procedure, which is $18,000. And sadly, I don’t have those funds to cover it. I’ve already spent more than $15,000 over the last 6 years to get to this point.

I know there are a lot of fundraisers out there worthy of your support so please know I sincerely appreciate you reading this if you’ve gotten this far. I would really like to be a Mom, and if you want to help me become a Mom with whatever you can give, I’d be so grateful.

—KMD